Sex position at 32+

Hi ladies,

Need some recommendations if you happen to be in a similar situation.

I’m 32 weeks and have only just got my sex drive back. My husband and I did not have sex at all in my 2nd trimester. Now the challenge is that my bump is way bigger from the last time we had sex and we’re both not sure how to manoeuvre.

My favourite position before the bump was either cowgirl or doggy but I’m not sure if it’s safe or how comfortable it would be to try those now.

Yesterday was our wedding anniversary and we both got very steamy but couldn’t get to the sex. It was actually quite hilarious as we started to talk about how sex might affect baby’s head / position.

(From our last MW appointment, we know baby’s head is positioned in my pelvic region, which is good).

Hubby and I ended up just cuddling and laughing about it. But definitely still both very horny and in need of advice.

Note - oral sex is off the table at the moment due to my acid reflux (can’t have his … in my mouth lol) and I don’t want him down there either (considering all the discharge - tmi sorry lol).

So any recommendations would be super helpful pls:

1. What sex position will not cause baby to change her current position?
2. What sex position did you enjoy / feel most comfortable with at 32 weeks plus?

Thanks so much!

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Any sex position is good as long as you are comfy. On your back might be tricky as baby weight on nerves can make you dizzy.

We find spooning, him laying on side, me on back with legs over hips works.. doggy (still a favourite as can move a lot more and bump is out the way obv not laying on front) cow girl/reverse also still works its just a little slower 🤣

I’ve never heard of sex changing the position of the baby before so I can’t help with that one!

The most comfortable for us is on a side spooning or second to that is the eagle (I find a cushion under your bum is most comfy)

It definitely gets more difficult with a big bump! Doggy is good one and me bending over a worktop or something that sort of height has been great for us.
Also if I position myself at the edge of the bed or sofa and him kneeling beneath, that is a good one but the bigger bump gets the harder it is! You can’t get as close together 🤣
I find cowgirl too exhausting these days 😂
If you enjoy being on your back then I find propping myself up with pillows works but bump does get in the way!

I’ve no idea about sex changing baby’s position… may be a question for your midwife?

Any position gives me cramp now lol but cowgirl is too uncomfortable for me because my tummy feels so squashed and missionary I can’t breathe at all because of my large chest and bump 🤣

Doggy is 100% easiest for me but I suppose you just have to try and find what works for you as awkward as it can be!

I lie on my side with one leg in the air leaning against hubby's chest. He kind of kneels straddling my leg that is on the bed. I don't know if you can picture how that would work it's a bit hard to explain! 🤣🤣 It works well for though.

Deffo recommend spooning / on your side

Me and hubby only do doggy when I'm pregnant I can't seem to get comfy in any other position 🤣xxx

Girl on top. I have a feeling this is quite similar to bouncing on a birth ball 😄
Spooning is also OK but harder to do

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