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January 2023 Babies 🇬🇧

Am I overreacting?

So basically I think I have an issue with my childminder.
Worst thing is , I don’t have any back up plan too and I need to resign from my job.
On the first visit baby was asleep when I brought her there and she told me to leave, baby will be fine even tho she wasn’t . And when I told her she is due for a bottle at 10am she was like oh we are going to park then. Obviously i explained I’m prepared for that and have a thermos ready with a hot water. I was sent a lot of pics of her crying even at the park.
Ok thought first day was just rough and it should be better next time.
Yesterday was our second time and I picked her up and she was over tired, puffy eyes and then childminder tells me I think she either had a a tummy ache or teething is bothering her. She hasn’t ate and when she said she napped I don’t believe it when I saw the state of my kiddo. So meaning she haven’t had food since 6:30 am 😳😳😳😳 AND, worst thing is she haven’t sent me a message or called when baby isn’t eating or is just crying for two hours straight. 😳😳😳
We came home she chugged down a whole bottle, and fell asleep straight away for 2 and a half hours what never happens.
So with all this I offered the childminder to stay with a baby there with her so she can see how I do things and stuff where she said no as then baby will expect me to be there all the time.
I do think it will give her some kind of safe feeling and teach childminder stuff as baby doesn’t need to adjust to her but she needs to adjust to the baby of some sort too.
I do think we need to talk this through but I’m scared it’s too late and little one already has a trauma seeing her.
Husband says she’s working for me and I pay her so she should either listen to my needs or it will not work for us