Please no judgement

I already feel stupid/mean about how much this bothers me. My son will be 2 in January, when I registered him I gave him his dads surname, and from time to time it has bothered me that I didn’t either give my name or include my surname also.

I feel like my entire life is dedicated to my son, every second of eveyday and it is not that way for my boyfriend. Our relationship has been rocky since our son was born, he found it extremely difficult at the beginning and still struggles with some things that just come naturally to me. I still resent him for all the nights sleep he has gotten and all the times he didn’t get out of bed in the mornings. Why am I still thinking about this this far on. (We are together 7 years)

Apart of me what’s to start looking into adding my name on to my sons birth cert but also he is almost 2, do I really want to open this can of worms of his name being changed on everything, the upset I might cause from doing this.

Or can anyone just tell me anything to make me feel better, it’s JUST a name that’s what I’m telling myself. My son knows he is my world and he loves me and I love him, and the fact we don’t share the same surname doesn’t matter .

I might sound ridiculous to some, but please no comments that’s going to make me feel worse .

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Needing advice

I just found out im pregnat with my partner again

I have other kids that arent his

Is it wierd he says to me he always need to have the weekend at his house with his kids because he needs a break from my other kids, but he tells me he wants to be with me forever and stuff but says he needs a break am i just overreacting

School pick up mums

Trying to work out the school pick up routine. When you have a baby and a school age kid what helps you to be ready on time? Advice welcome

Male nursery worker

Am I being unreasonable? I feel uncomfortable with a male nursery worker changing my daughter’s nappies. I was told he was “helping out” for a day? But no explanation was given. Can I raise it with the head without being seen as problematic? To be completely honest, I found it unsettling and odd he just appeared out of the blue..

Screen-Free

Any other moms doing no screens? How do you get anything done or deal with the crying?? I feel like I never get a moment for myself or to even do things that need to be done like cleaning or cooking. My baby loves to be held all day but hates carriers. No judgement please! We are trying to do no screens for the first two years. Sometimes I have to just let him cry for a bit while I do something for myself and it feels awful. And let's not even get into the screaming in the car...I don't know if it's true and I feel kinda bad for saying this but I feel like screen-free parents just deal with a lot more crying 😞

Curious about the screen time epidemic

Tell me what your family does

Childminders

After a bit of advice. My son has been at a childminders since September last year. I'm finding her to be increasing unreliable, so far this year she's had 4 days closed and multiple times when I drop him off she informs me I need to collect him early, sometimes 2 hours early.
This is losing me money as I have a job that I can then not go to, as it's too short notice to arrange alternative childcare.
I've not had a childminder before, so I'm unsure if this is the norm?