Why oh why

I give birth to my little girl two months ago and I feel I’m in the middle of a family fall out🥺.. my sister in law is apparently upset and annoyed at me for not messaging her back last week, what do people expect me to be an octopus with 8 arms🥺😢.. I genuinely can’t deal with the stress, my anxiety is high rn from it all! I actually don’t know the reason for this post I just need to rant and get it off my chest 🥺xx

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Hi, some people do not understand what we go through as a new mother, don’t feel bad or apologise for being busy, tired, irritated or anxious. You have to deal with hormones and a whole new being who needs you 24/7
If people can’t support you, they need to be ignored, they are grown ups, they are not the ones who need your attention and they need to deal with it.

I take days to reply to my family and my husband’s family who messages me everyday asking me for baby photos and videos as if I had the time….. I can barely sleep and eat, all my worries are into breast feeding and how many poops my baby is having, they need to give me a break.

Love you and your baby right now, she needs you and you need to be well to love her so love you first ♥️

thank you so much for the reply, it’s actually really awful that people can be so mean and hateful, it takes a huge toll on you doesn’t it. I needed to hear that 🩷 so thank you so much xx

Try not to let it bother you! People are silly, she should just be texting again to check in & then again if you don’t reply. Not kicking off, it says more about her than it does you. Focus on your little one, you’re doing a great job 🤍

People just don’t get how time consuming having a little one is! I keep getting asked for pics of baby girl but I don’t have time to take pics every day 😂

I hope you’re okay, please take no notice of your SIL 🫶🏼 me and my fiancé get the same, especially because we’re in the uk and his family are in America but we don’t get chance to do anything let alone remember to answer texts everyday 😭

I put a barrier up with my sister. She brought stress to my door and I have ptsd which I manage very well but can’t be tipped over the edge. Her fall out with her boyfriend does not trump my mental well being because I have a baby to take care of. We lost our mum too while I was pregnant. I meditated daily and spent time outside and allowed myself to feel. My sister turned to booze and put more stress on the family.

What I’m saying is, your the matriarch of your family now your the barrier and let’s say placenta of what affects your baby too but you need to look after momma first or the house and family will crumble

Thank you so much everyone for the support 🩷🩷 I really appreciate it xxx

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I'm struggling. Have been for a while. I've had one break from parenting my daughter, that was for 3 hours in December when I left her with her dad.

She's 14 months old and I'm just tired. I've done every night by myself. He's out of bed at 4am and doesn't get home until 7-9pm. He drives for work, very physically tiring.
On the weekends he was doing 6 days, one weekend day off, but now has both off.

He doesn't sit on the floor and play with her, he doesn't read to her because he says she doesn't have the patience.
He will pick her up and hold her whilst he's cooking.

Recently I've been "snappy" with him.
He got back from the mechanic last weekend, she was getting onto the sofa and he put his headphones on and started to watch Netflix on his phone.
The same day I told him I was going to run her bath and to watch her whilst she was still eating, he fell asleep on the sofa.

Today he went to football after going shopping, so was out 1-3 and then from 4-8.
He got back and I was snappy.

"I don't get why you're so snappy with me"

I said - Probably because I haven't had a break since December.

"Do you think I don't know you haven't had a break. I haven't had a break", "I just won't go to work, I'll sit at home all day".

Then "do you think I like not having a connection to my child"... But that's on him? He never sits to play with her. He "doesn't see the point". He's stated that this age is boring to him.

Since she's been born, he has been to a friend's once a month. Football - He stopped going for 7months, but has been the last two weekends.

Are these not breaks?

He does do the washing/washing up/cooking/vacuuming when I haven't had a chance to; but I'm the one in charge of feeding her, naps/bedtime, teeth brushing, hair brushing, baths, dressing her, making sure she has the right shoes, appointments etc. Everything falls on me.

If your partner works ridiculously long hours, how much do they look after your child? Do you ever get a break?

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