Wife/mother

How's everyone else handling the whole being a great wife and mum thing? I'm trying to keep up with housework, cook nice meals for my hubby, and be a good mum. My husband is a big help with the baby, and he works so hard, so I enjoy taking care of him. But honestly, I'm just so tired all the time. I wonder how our parents managed it all. When I talk to them, they just say they got on with it. I'm doing my best, but I often feel completely drained. I also want more children so i often wonder how I will cope 😆

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Aaah this sounds lovely, but you will be drained! Maybe one day your husband can cook dinner? Or do take away!

Also, I found looking at things in terms of priority is helpful.

So washing up is high priority (needs to be done today)

Maybe folding laundry is mid priority and could be done the next day

I don’t have very high standards in the wife (girlfriend) department tbh lol🤣 During the day he’s at work, and childcare/house is my job. Once he finishes work we’re 50/50. One cooks, one does bath and bed etc, and we try to tidy up together in the evening as a way of getting some time together too otherwise we wouldn’t have 5 mins to actually talk 🤣

Slow cooker meals has been my thing you can make delicious meals, if you contact me I can get you some recipes.

Once a month or every other I get a cleaner to help with certain places like bathroom and kitchen and I just too up everyday.

My husband cooks and cleans every night while I feed to sleep.

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Is this normal?

Is it just my husband that does this? He is able to work from home via his computer and in the mornings and evenings he is on there doing his job. When he is done for the day he tends to stay in the room and either play video games or watch something. He will occasionally come out and play with the girls for a few minutes and that’s it but when I really need him he says he is busy. My daughters are both 1 year old now and I am just wondering how much involvement should he have with them now?
Idk if this is the norm or not…..

Saying NO to buying toys etc

5 year old is getting really envious of others. He is obsessed with items that other kids have at school. I am pestered daily to buy these things in a different style when we already have 3 others. I have seen parents just buying stuff their kid likes which I don't necessarily agree with even when i can afford it. How do you deal with it?

Thoughts?

your soon to be brother in law (upon inquiry) told you that only a few kids from the family were attending his wedding because they are over the age cut off..

Tablet for kids

Alright don’t need any negative Nancy’s telling me not to get my 2yo a tablet so if that’s what your gunna do please don’t participate in my poll.

We’re about to move cross country 3+ day trip and my 2yo and 9m hate the car I’m talking scream their heads off till they are out of their seats. We’ve already changed car seats and it didn’t help so I’d like to at least have one entertained and sit next to baby and try and distract her or put her to sleep. Our new car has tvs but since they are rear faced my 2yo can’t see it.

Debating getting her a tablet or dvd player right now on long car rides I end up giving her my phone because I get so overwhelmed sitting in between both of them screaming and crying.

And yes I do bring different toys I bring snacks I play songs try to distract her other ways but for the sake of not losing my mind on this move I think this is best.

-A very overwhelmed and anxious to move mama 😓

Daycare?

Thoughts on daycare?? Truly, I am SCARED to be leaving my kid for daycare. I literally do not trust anyone, not even family (they haven’t given me a reason it’s just trust issues on my end, you never know). He’s turning 3 and I’ve been a sahm the whole time but tbh my man doesn’t make enough for us to move out somewhere more calm . We live in a ‘not so safe’ area in LA and I’m just not used to living here so I just want us to give my son a better life and in order to speed up the process I would have to work.. I do lashes at home and I’d be open to take new clients so I wouldn’t have to look for work but I’m just scared to lose my license 😭

5 month old activities

Hey everyone my baby is 5 months old and I want to reduce/cut screen time as I have read up on how bad it is what activities did people do to keep their baby entertained. Thank you in advance.