I just want to rant

You may have enough vests, sleep suits etc if you manage to wash them regularly 😅 plus you’ll need a load of muslin cloths! I go through so many a day 😂
The essentials you will need and in terms of stocking up, if he’s willing to go out every day or every other day to get a packet then so be it 😂
Worth making a bag if you want to, I didn’t do mine until 37 weeks ish 😬
It’s a shame he doesn’t understand, he should do his research and then he can say his opinion 🤷🏼‍♀️ I don’t think people understand the amount of research mums do while pregnant and after so it’s worth listening to them!

he doesn’t go out to get me stuff now or help me while I am pregnant I doubt he will be going out to pick things up. He doesn’t even live with me so he won’t travel all the way here to get stuff I need for the baby, that will be my job. Washing wise he won’t be doing that either that will be me too. He has never listened to me when all I am doing is helping him since he can’t be bothered to even do any research himself. I have only got the the point that he understands why my antenatal appointments are important before he used to complain about them too and why it’s necessary to go to so many. My midwife said I could possibly give birth 37 weeks so I need to prepare everything I need to bring and pack into my hospital bag as soon as possible

I like to think that once baby is here, he will step up! I would do what you think and just ignore everything he is saying. Do you have any friends or family that can help you with anything? I would pack a bag anyway and start buying bits that you can have in bulk and store it. If he doesn’t live with you then he shouldn’t have to worry about it as it’s not in his house 🤷🏼‍♀️
I’m sorry you have to deal with him 😞

my family and friends all live 2 hours away so I am alone majority of the time. Asked my mum if she can come the week of my due date but that’s if I have the baby on the week/date I’m supposed to otherwise I will be going by myself. Yeh I think he’s just getting annoyed that he’s spending his money on the baby even though I have spent way more than him already. He probably just wants to keep more money to buy trainers and clothes for himself and be able to use the money to go out with friends

Sounds like he’s anxiously avoidant, like my brother. If you are alone - don’t discuss with him what you need and what you’re buying for postpartum care or baby. If it’s a financial thing where he’s paying for it then I understand why he’s trying to facilitate the purchases. My brother is the same way and its actually bc he was super anxious about being able to afford the costs of a new chapter in his life (moving out, getting married etc) but translates as carelessness instead of anxiety bc he’s not communicating. You are high risk and you do not need him for antenatal classes. Ik it sucks sis to do alone esp if you see others in pairs but at the end of the day if you want to utilise them as a resource do it girl! I have an involved husband but I do them classes alone bc he doesn’t have time and I rely my notes to him. Im sorry you are experiencing this but i agree w Leah, he will step up when baby comes if he’s anything like my idiot brother 😅 just needs a reality check.

Unfortunately he’s gonna have to deal with spending money on his baby! Your both in this together and it’s not fair that he letting you do it by yourself! I don’t think he realises how much a baby needs. They fill up so much room!
Hopefully your mum can help a little before or after they come!
Is he going to be at the birth?

I need to discuss what we need for the baby and postpartum ofherwise it will be me only spending for the baby and preparing for birth. So far I have spent so much money and he hasn’t spent much. He lives with his mum and I live alone so I have so much more expenses to pay for plus soon I won’t be working because I’m having a baby so I am trying to survive with little money I will have but hard if he is not helping with anything. I only suggested for him to come antenatal classes because he doesn’t know or does his own research on how to care for a baby and keeps saying what I’m trying to teach him from what I learnt wrong or being over dramatic when I’m fact I am just trying to make sure the baby will be safe and healthy. I am high risk so really he needs to do more to support since I am alone in my house and everyone is 2 hours away so anything could happen and I got nobody but myself. He ain’t really a resource tbh he doesn’t help regardless so what’s the point of him

mum will support as much as she can but she lost her job recently so she cannot help financially so I will just have to figure it out somehow to raise and prepare for this child without the support from the father of my baby. He doesn’t realise and won’t do any research to even check what is needed or even listen when I tell him what babies need and what is needed when I give birth. He goes I’m sure the hospital will provide everything so no need to bring anything to hospital when you give birth. Well I don’t even know he said he will but he never sticks to promises so I will try get my mum to come to the birth and then if he shows up then fine but I know he won’t know how to do anything to support anyways and probably complain when things ain’t straightforward or stressful because he didn’t prepare for anything.

I thought I had too many but we get through A LOT with leaks or him seeing everywhere whilst being changed! I wash a load every other day which is fine whilst I can line dry but I wouldn’t want to be running the tumble dryer that often in winter. I think you need 10 if each but can get away with most of these being 0-3 months as they will last longer. Sadly doesn’t sound like your BF is invested or interested in being a dad to your baby 😕

tbh I’m already struggling to buy him clothes as I bought as much as I can already and if baby dad paid his share baby would have enough clothes but seems like I will be washing every day just hope my baby won’t get to a point he’s soiled all his clothes before they are washed and dry

Fair enough. We were lucky to get a load of hand me downs from a friend. Do you know any one who may not need theirs anymore? Also I’ve seen loads of bundles for sale on dmfacebook market place for really cheap so you could buy a load for not a lot

nope my friends that have boys already threw away baby clothes as their kids are grown up now. I might have to look into 2nd clothes, since it is my first child I didn’t really want to do that but because baby dad ain’t helping out properly I ain’t got a choice.

Use vinted if you can for vests etc, you can usually find bundles for super cheap! You do need as many as you can possibly fit in your house or you'll be doing washing every day, especially during the early days! Just makes your life easier. Also can I ask why you live 2 hours from your friends & family, did you move for your partner? Are you planning on living with him at some point in the near future? Benefit of the doubt for him until the baby arrives but if he doesn't step up imminently I'd be threatening to move back home x

this is where I bought a house and was living here before I got pregnant. I don’t need my baby father is going to fix this relationship or him even move in. Tried to force him to live here whilst I’m pregnant so he can help but didn’t work out which is why we are not technically together but was trying to work things out. My home area is just 2 hours away and friends and family are all there. I’m going to sell my house July next year when I can actually put it up for sale so I can move back to my mums so I have support but for now I’ll be doing this alone with no support close by