Anyone struggling?

I’m a single pregnant first time mum, I’m 17 weeks today and the last week or two my emotions have just dropped. I’m worried as they say the baby can feel everything your feeling but I can’t shake this feeling, I’ve been diagnosed with depression and anxiety and I find my self randomly crying on the daily! If anyone has felt like this how have they dealt with it or if anyone has any advice, it’s going to be a long pregnancy otherwise 😬😩

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Unfortunately these moods come hand in hand with pregnancy. I'm not single but my partner works nights 50% of the time and spends a lot of time in Wales as he hasn't moved to England yet. When my first 2 children go to their dad's and I get home to a empty house after work, I cry too 🙄

Try therapy. Find your “pregnancy niche” or vice. Eat foods that make you happy. **********JOURNAL**********. Affirmations. Positive podcasts/public speakers.

I feel you girl! I’ve been diagnosed with depression and anxiety too and i’m constantly crying and just feeling a wreck!! Just know it’s completely normal to feel like this and you’re not alone. It’s just your hormones babes 🥰❤️

Positive affirmations before you sleep and night, breathing exercises and some meditation if you can..

It might be an idea to ask your midwife if she can refer you to the perinatal service. They will have specialist mental health nurses who may be able to help or signpost you for advice.
Try and do things to relax your body as much as you can. Self care! I've been having strong pangs of anxiety this week so last night I spoke to my best friend, had a nice relaxing bath, did a face mask and listened to some calming music.... I finally managed to relax and get a decent night's sleep!
Our bodies are going through so much at the moment so it's normal to feel these emotions... we need to be kind to ourselves. ❤️❤️❤️

Also in similar situation. Weekends are harder for me sadly 😔

Thinking to ask perinatal midwife team I’ve been referred to (you can ask your normal midwife to refer you) about possible meds as I’m struggling a bit emotionally due to lots of external factors going on.

Try to get referred to perinatal midwife team as the extra support will be needed and helpful if your feeling like this and ongoing support doing this alone etc

Sending you best wishes ❤️

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When does it get better?

I was crying on the phone with the perinatal mental health team today and the lovely lady, bless her, kept assuring me that it gets better. I kept telling her I hope so because people have been saying that since having my LO and it just feels like it keeps getting worse. She assured me it gets better....

Rant/WWYD

My sister (youngest, 24) has two kids, 4 & 1, and i (oldest, 30) just have my one who’s 6mo old right now, so i ask her for advice or call her to vent about things sometimes. Well im tired of her turning around and telling my other family members that I’m “losing my sh*t.” Literally have not lost my sh*t nor have i ever freaked out to her about my baby, i just call her to talk and tell her what stage my baby is in or talk through how im feeling, but she chooses to tell people that im like a complete nutcase or something which worries me that my family is going to start being judgmental about me as a mother or looking at me funny like I’m some fragile ticking time bomb.

What would you do in this situation? I’m already pretty much decided that I’ll stop telling her anything about my struggles, but I’m almost at the point where i feel like it should be confronted because she, of all people, should understand what I’m going through.

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I’m going crazy. Baby born at 2.26kg. Slow to put on weight. This last week hasn’t put on any. Been trying to feed him at night and he’s not interested at all. Fast asleep. During day he will have 5 minute gulps and that’s it. He don’t cry for milk. I’ve got to keep offering to him. I try to offer it every hour but I don’t know what I’m doing. HV said nutrition comes after 5 minutes so I should pump first and then give him. I find it so hard. I tried to pump one boob nothing came. The other abit came. Tried giving him express he’s not interested in that too. Sometimes he will go for a longer a feed but not long at all. He’s 4 months and is currently 5.46kg. I have no family or friend support here and wish I had a cook, cleaner and nanny to help with everything so I can concentrate on the little one. I don’t know what’s wrong with him but I’m loosing it. It doesn’t help that my also stressed generally about my relationship and life circumstances. Any advice that will work. Any comfort you can give. I’m fed up. Is this regression - not feeding. He’s fast fast asleep. I’ve been trying to push the nipple in but that mouth is closed shut. I took some clothes off. Changed his nappy but he’s still asleep. Please help

i just want someone to talk to😔😔😔😔

when things get hard i have nothing not any support from my partner im convinced he doesn’t even love me anymore but thats another story
I have a 3 yo and a 2yo that are in bed sleeping only just now. I have a 1 yo that’s been sleeping from 8 o’clock to 10 o’clock. I just gave her her milk and she would’ve gone back to sleep if it wasn’t that
I lost her dummy earlier in the day when I went out
so now she won’t go back to sleep and she won’t accept any of the other dummy’s i have!😔😔and it’s 10 o’clock and I’m gonna be up until 3 o’clock with her and when she does want to go to sleep i won’t have any dummy to give her she will accept and she won’t sleep without it i just wanna cry 😔i have nobody to talk to and i feel so alone i get no support from anybody i’m so tired and i don’t feel well to top it off😔

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8 week old in sleeping bag for first time as big enough! Do you feed your child in the night whilst in the sleeping bag or taken them out, feed then transfer back to sleeping bag before putting down?

Has anyone died their kids hair a fun color and have any recommendations for kid friendly hair dye that actually works and stays in the hair for a bit? 👀👀👀

She has 3b brown hair and wants kpop demon hunter purple