So scared to send this out but needs to

Trying not to sounds rude aha I hate setting Boundaries be definitely needs to be done

Does this sounds okay and not to rude aha

Sending to it everyone as don’t wanna upset certain people who it applies to more aha, Mum and mil seems to think they are coming over all day everyday, and sister in law wants to post out baby everywhere on social media

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Sounds great!

Seems very reasonable, if that was sent to me I’d be happy to follow them and wouldn’t take offence or anything

Not rude at all

U do what is best for YOUR family. If others don't like it to bad

Sounds very nice and not rude at all. It does remind me I must get hubby to warn mil again.

Send itttt

Great thank you all so much xx

Sounds good, not rude at all

Just heads up, typo in the last bullet point

Looks good to me! Can I ask how are you sending it/sharing it?

Lovely tone and I love that you added emojis it makes things so much easier for people to just accept because its light hearted 😁

aha thank you. Did it really late last night when couldn’t sleep aha 😴 xx

aha yeah my thought exactly Aha xx

making a group chat with everyone in it and send it over. So everyone knows everyone got it and don’t think it’s just for them aha xx

it's wild to me that people in this day and age still don't see the problem with kissing babies on the face! Especially before they are about 12 weeks old and out of that really dangerous period of time

Send it out, you got this xx

I went through the same! I had to share it on my social media from someone elses post 😂 the anxiety builds up but then we have to put us and our babies first, its so sad we have to think and eorry ourselves like this🫠

Post it! And whoevers understanding are the real people you want in your life xxx

Nah mate stick to your boundaries. You'll feel a bit out of it as your hormones settle and will want peace x

I put something similar in a WhatsApp group to family and friends, it's absolutely fine to set boundaries. I may have gone a little overboard asking guests when visiting if they wouldn't mind taking their shoes off in the hall, to feel free to bring slippers and also sanitise hands before holding the baby. The midwife said to blame her for asking them not to kiss the baby but everyone was fine with it. If anyone needs a template, just message me!x

I'd love to send this to family and friends but I know it would cause issues.
I may however pop it on FB - seems less likely I'll get backlash from people

Love this! Can I steal it to send out to my folks? Xxx

yeah that’s fine xx

I am still fighting the shoe battle 3 years later. They just don't take them off (in laws ) or they walk all the way across the room make a song and dance then take them off. They got very funny about us following covid rules and hand washing etc.

Good boundaries and just makes it clear 👍

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Help!!!

Am I wrong if I secide to stop doing baths etc for my little ones. We have a 3 and 1 year old. I do all the baths wake up in ams cooking etc. I dont want them to be dirty but it's like I need a break and Im tired of doing it all by myself. He will come up and help after they are out the tub every now and then and that pisses me off. Im taking care of 2 littles one by myself makes no sense. I asked him to give them baths tonight he said I worked all day what did you do...ive had the children all day. We went to church he didn't go. We all know how little ones are.. but what should I do bcus it feels like I'm going crazy

Heartbreak

After years of trying, months of back and fourth on the fate of our marriage, indecision, fights. The whole enchilada my husband and I are separating, divorcing. Whatever. I'm so goddamn heart broken. I feel like it's a death and I'm in mourning. We have a 3 year old son and currently and for the foreseeable we are going to coparent and live together. This makes things harder because neither one of us can really move on but it's how it is. He understands and he's trying to heal too. But I can't understand why now that things are over he can be kind. He's been more amazing in the last week since I ended things than ever. Why couldn't he do that when we were together for years I begged for change, we saw a counselor I tried everything and he just wouldn't. Now he seems to turn a switch and be able to just do it all. But it's too late. My heart aches. My body aches. Love sucks.

Partner works incredibly long hours, how much do they help out?

I'm struggling. Have been for a while. I've had one break from parenting my daughter, that was for 3 hours in December when I left her with her dad.

She's 14 months old and I'm just tired. I've done every night by myself. He's out of bed at 4am and doesn't get home until 7-9pm. He drives for work, very physically tiring.
On the weekends he was doing 6 days, one weekend day off, but now has both off.

He doesn't sit on the floor and play with her, he doesn't read to her because he says she doesn't have the patience.
He will pick her up and hold her whilst he's cooking.

Recently I've been "snappy" with him.
He got back from the mechanic last weekend, she was getting onto the sofa and he put his headphones on and started to watch Netflix on his phone.
The same day I told him I was going to run her bath and to watch her whilst she was still eating, he fell asleep on the sofa.

Today he went to football after going shopping, so was out 1-3 and then from 4-8.
He got back and I was snappy.

"I don't get why you're so snappy with me"

I said - Probably because I haven't had a break since December.

"Do you think I don't know you haven't had a break. I haven't had a break", "I just won't go to work, I'll sit at home all day".

Then "do you think I like not having a connection to my child"... But that's on him? He never sits to play with her. He "doesn't see the point". He's stated that this age is boring to him.

Since she's been born, he has been to a friend's once a month. Football - He stopped going for 7months, but has been the last two weekends.

Are these not breaks?

He does do the washing/washing up/cooking/vacuuming when I haven't had a chance to; but I'm the one in charge of feeding her, naps/bedtime, teeth brushing, hair brushing, baths, dressing her, making sure she has the right shoes, appointments etc. Everything falls on me.

If your partner works ridiculously long hours, how much do they look after your child? Do you ever get a break?

Am I wrong ?

My daughter’s 1st birthday was Thursday and nobody wished her a happy birthday from her dads family but his mom watched his story. Should I put my foot down and set boundaries for them to accept accountability or should I just let them stay on that side for as long as they want and not worry about it?

Tv good or bad

My 4 month old loves TV shows especially dancing fruits and baby TV is this a good thing or a bad thing at this age?

Hi mummas! I need help with potty training?

My daughter is 4 years old, she will be turning 5 this November. I’ve tried everything I can think of, to help her and encourage her. I’ve tried bribing, I’ve tried sticker charts, I’ve tried buying her underwear of her choice— nothing. She’s suspected autistic. She will not try. She will sit on the potty at nursery for a few minutes and that’s it! At home, nothing. Any help would be greatly appreciated 🎀✨