Rant time

So my husband has gone on a work convention with his dad today. Didn't want him to go seeing as it leaves me alone with a 2 year old a 5 week old and a dog that my toddler will not leave alone. But as per his dad wants to do it so it's done. Yet I have to be thankful that he'd managed to talk his dad into doing it all in one day as opposed to 2 like previous years. He left at 6 this morning and won't be back til 5ish 👍🏻

Decided to go to the playground to entertain my toddler and baby decided he was going to cry and want feeding. So I told my toddler to play on the grass and not play on anything until I was done so I could help. He plays on the grass then comes back to me with red all over his face and I say what have you been eating? He says strawberries and I ask where from so he shows me and he's been picking blackberries off the bushes in the playground and eating them. So I text my husband and tell him and ask if I should call 111? And he responds as of he's all holier than thou saying I should have been paying more attention, he's only 2 year old, I should have been stood with him feeding the baby because that's what he would do. So he's totally fucked me off by saying that as if I don't know my son is only 2 and needs watching. I am fully aware, I look after them both by myself a lot more than he does. In Fact 99% more than he does. So I ignored the rest of his messages.

Had a nice time the rest of the time we were in the playground, came home and now my toddler is being awful 😭 hitting the dog with a stick, pouring the hosepipe over himself, putting stones in baby's pushchair. I told him he would have to go inside if he carried on and he did so we came inside. I told him he needed to go to the toilet as it has been a while and he kicked up a right fuss then wee'd his pants 😭 and I lost my shit 😭 he then asked for a mini roll so I gave him one and he was feeding it to her so I told him no because she will get poorly. So he fed her it again. So I took the damn thing off him.

I am ready to cry today, I've had enough 😭

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Big hugs mumma, blokes just don't get it, leave him with the kids and dog for few hours and go out with friends, see how he would manage xx

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