A veces necesitamos un desahogo con las personas correctas

Que triste cuando quieres desahogarte con algún familiar, un amigo, a veces hasta con tu pareja y en vez de recibir un consejo o apoyó terminan haciéndote sentir que exageras tu situación o que tienes la culpa de lo que te pasa. Automáticamente se te quitan las ganas de volver a contarles tus problemas por miedo a qué vuelvan a juzgarte.

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Así es!

Justo así me siento

Yo ahora me quedo callada, prefiero llorar. Porque no se? La verdad.

@Johanna te mando un abrazo, sea lo que sea afortunadamente ya no estamos solas, si quieres desahogarte, con toda confianza lo puedes hacer, aquí nadie te va a juzgar.
Si quieres un consejo ponlo o si no solo desahógate y te leeremos.

@Vane llorar ayuda a no quedarte con ese nudo en el estómago, pero hablarlo o platicarlo también ayuda y mucho.
Te mando un abrazo y si después de la llorada quieres desahogarte escribiéndolo, adelante, te leeremos sin juzgar.

Saben se qué son personas extrañas, siempre fui una mujer conformista, con un marido sin aspiraciones o egoísta, siempre decía todo mejorara, todo mejorara, nunca exigí nada comprendía la situación, tuve mi primera hija a los 20 años, lloraba cuando mi hija lloraba, me trataban mal en la casa de la mamá de el, sus hermanitas se volaban una pared y me roban las cosas de la bebé, le decía a él y el cuando le reclamaba a su mamá, ella decía un poco de cosas como era su casa, decía que si no me gustaba me fuera. Todo lo que recuerdo es malo, malo y más malo. Mi mamá no es mala, pero ha Sido una persona muy permisiva, ha permitido abusos , explotación, todo, me da coraje, Porque es una persona buena. Ella dice que hay que ayudar a los demás sin importar, eso es verdad, yo lo entiendo. Lo que no entiendo es porque permitió tanto?

A medida que pasaba el tiempo crecía mi primera hija y después vino el segundo hijo, el al principio era amoroso, pero hasta me llegó a golpear, yo llegaba llorando donde mi mamá, me hicieron la vida imposible..porque soporto tanto ? No sé, me dedique a la crianza de mis hijos, no termine la universidad, cuando quise estudiar algo que me gustaba el papá de mis hijos me dijo que después de vieja? Que porque iba a estudiar ahora, que yo que pensaba, aún así seguí estudiando música. Me golpeaba delante de mis hijos, delante de mi mama. Yo esperando que cambie, han pasado 22 años y el se fue cierto día para donde sus hermanas . Según porque le daba pena estar en mi casa sin aportar. He Sido comprensiva, he sido tolerante , he Sido como mi mamá me inculcó. Pero me siento triste

Ya no aporto a veces , me siento tan triste deprimida, tan todo

@Vane te mando un abrazo a la distancia, pero si te sirve de algo.
Claro que haces muchísimo, la casa y los niñ@s no se educan y limpian y arreglan solos.
El quedarse en el hogar, es aportar demasiado en la casa y la vida de tus hijos y esposo

Ánimo guapa, la mayoría de veces nos entendemos mejor con algún desconocido/a

Y en esta app créeme que puedes hacerlo🫶🏼 estamos para ti !!

Así me siento yo,muy sola no tengo amiga,no salgo solo en mi casa atendiendo a mis hijas y mi marido si siento que me gustaría tener amigas para platicar desahogarme o ir a un café pero no tengo ninguna y las que tenía me traicionaron 😢😢😢

@Piita hey llegaste a la app indicada.
Aquí nos escuchamos y creeme, encontramos amigas a la distancia o con suerte cerca que te comprenderán, ya lo verás.

Muchas gracias Wendy estoy abierta a hacer amiguitas y escuchar todo de ellas y ayudar en lo que pueda 🙏

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