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Inlaws mentioned cost over and over for gifts they brought my kids. I paid for them and my boyfriend is angry

Today my boyfriend's family came to see our twins. They do not visit often (usually four times a year) even though they live close by. They do not support us financially in any way. Recently they went on vacation and wanted to come by because they had gifts for the children. I've never stopped them from visiting so was happy to set a time today. They came today and my twins who are two did like there gifts which were two teady bears. They were uncomfortable because they don't know there grandparents. They were pushing themselves on the kids and forcing hugs ect. Nana mentioned over and over that the toys were $15.00 each. As if she felt they were unthankful or something? I am sure these toys will be played with and I said so several times. I said thank-you repeatedly. My kids are behind in language so we're unable to say thank-you but I think they liked them. She continued to go on and on about the gifts that were not asked for. It got really uncomfortable for me so I got up and took $30 from my purse and paid for the toys. She took the money and didn't mention the cost again. She said the cost at least ten times in two hours. While I think I shouldn't have to pay for anything I didn't ask to be bought I could not listen to it any longer. My boyfriend is mad now that they have went home saying I embarrassed them. What was the right thing to do?

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Cannot believe your boyfriend is mad? They seemed to have taken the money with no worries?

He’s mad at the wrong person. He should have told his mom thank you for the gifts and we understand what you paid for them but no need to keep mentioning. Tell him you felt she kept mentioning it to rub it in that they paid so much so to ease the problem you gave her the money back to stop hearing about it.

she said thanks put it in her purse . I thought the issue was over.

I would have done the same thing. And any future gifts would be politely refused.

yeah look, i don’t even know what to say or how the situation has since unfolded but maybe be like “oh you just had to spend to go on a holiday, I didn’t want you to be out of pocket” try keep the peace, or something along those lines.. But I think that behaviour is bizarre, you’re not in any wrong here. I don’t also see how it is a situation your partner or his parents need to get upset about
I would’ve done exactly the same thing you did if that were me

Oh wow. Strange as heck. I’m sorry girl ❤️ you’re honestly too kind!

So weird.

I'd bring it up with the MIL. I'd just say oh I just wanted to apologise for embarassing you by giving you the money for the teddy's I just misread the situation. And leave it at that. She will understand and drop it or ask more questions which gives you an opportunity to explain that it made you uncomfortable that she continually mentioned the cost.

There was no right way to handle that but if you had put up with the comments likely she would continue, to mention it. 10 times in an hr is a lot!!

Either you let her keep making comments and embarrass you guys or you give her the money which apparently embarrassed her. The whole thing could have been avoided if she just kept her mouth shut!

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