Struggling

Anyone else really struggling mentally through pregnancy I feel so guilty for struggling because I want this baby more than anything but just feel so down all the time xx

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I’m struggling too tbh. I just met with a new counselor ab it tbh.

Its just the hormones, dont panic its normal, the darkness fades after time to be kind to yourself, i had 4 MC, 10 rounds of IVF and felt the same, it passed eventually but when your going through it, its like the only thing that matters, at least your talking about it, keep doing that and give yourself a break, your making a person in there! Its not easy x

I did when I was pregnant, it's rough! Your body is going through so much! It's a mixture of hormones, exhaustion, everything growing and changing... it's a lot! Please don't ever feel bad for it! It's completely normal to feel like that and also to not enjoy pregnancy all the time!

Thank you everyone I just feel like it’s not talked about enough x

@Jane it's definitely not!! There's so many sides of pregnancy that need to be brought to light because everything is so scary when you don't know what's happening! Wishing you all the best!! Talk to your community midwife about any worries and hopefully they can help ease your mind too😊

Thank you it means a lot x

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Baby clothes

Just out of curiosity, why do parents love zipper onesies?

Don’t get me wrong, I tried zipper ones it’s easy to zip in and out when putting it on the first time and taking it out, but I find it difficult when changing diapers especially when baby is asleep.

I prefer those kimono style buttons where it’s easy to button or too down button with crotch snaps.

Is everyone thinking the same or different? Lol

At this point I’m not enjoying motherhood

My 22 month old is horrendous at the moment🫣 biting, hitting, pushing, pulling and shoving not only adults but children he also wants what other children have and will just snatch it away from them.

We repeat ‘nice hands’ ‘be gentle’ ‘let’s share’ etc

But how do I make him understand what he’s doing isn’t very nice? At the end of the day I feel like I’ve just been saying his name all day and nothing else.

What can I do?

Help

My LO every feed. Drs don’t seem to think it’s a problem the whole Muslim cloth gets soaked so much I’m using towels now. I’ve tried size O teats he gets really frustrated and still spills it out :(

Dummy

My baby has had a dummy since about 2 weeks old (now 5 months) and over the course of the last month we weaned her off it during the day only for naps and night (which was fine) and then 5 days took it completely away during the day.

The first day no dummy was fine, the second bit rougher. But now it feels impossible she just moans and cries all the time it takes ages for her to go down to sleep (she’s always been an amazing sleeper)

I thought it was meant to get better as time went on not worse. I’m at my wits end I dunno what to do.

Currently typing this as she screams uncontrollably in the car and I cry with her cos I can’t do anything.

Of these two, which seems more overall “demanding” to you, overall? Lighthearted poll, not putting anyone down 🫶🏼

As a mum who breastfed for 3 years, I think formula feeding seems 100x harder and more demanding. I give those mamas all the credit because I could not keep up with that faff haha. I truly don’t understand why people say breastfeeding is more effort, other than the fact that no one else can do it. But personally I’d take that over endless bottle prep & cleaning.

Is this normal?

My 12m old is really funny with kids going near him, he’s always been this way, but anytime family’s kids sit next to him or head his way he moans or cries and moves away. He also really observes them and is never really relaxed, always looking over his shoulder. Has anyone experienced this? (He’s starting nursery properly tomorrow so hoping this helps) but is this normal?