Okay moms, let’s say your child’s father was an amazing dad. Always there for the kids has a wonderful relationship with them but lives in the city (30 mins) away and was awarded standard visitation every other weekend. The kids start asking to live with their dad and to go to a new school. What do you say or do? Would you allow your kids to live with their father because that’s what they really want? How do you go about that?
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That’s a big adult decision. I’d have counseling first to walk through the thinking process and create a valid argument for how a new environment will create good decisions and successful foundational learning. I wouldn’t be against the idea but, really would try to help them get the full picture

How old are the kids? Do they really want to live with dad, or is he the "fun" parent because they are with mom all the time? I definitely wouldn't do a transfer in the middle of the year unless there was some sort of emergency. But I would probably let them visit more often in the meantime. Is Dad in a place to take the kids full time? (Beds/bedrooms, babysitter if at work during non school hours, etc) And does dad want to take the kids full time? I agree about doing counseling first also. I don't know if I would be able to let my kids be apart from me full time, but my daughter's bio wasn't a good person and hasn't been in her life since she was 3 (15 now) and my 2 year old still very much needs me lol 😆 I hope whatever solution you come up with is the best one for your family situation and you can feel good about the decision ❤️