This is basically asking for an unbiased opinion from other expectant moms.
Long story short, my mother in law is a mean narcissist, and we have never gotten along for the past 20 years of knowing her.
She got married last year and proceeded to give up everything and everyone in her life, including her sons and dog. My husband is the kindest soul you'll know and misses who his mom was when he was a kid.
Fast forward- when we found out we were pregnant, he wanted to tell his mom. So he did- and he received a very underwhelming reaction as we assumed.
Now two weeks later, she calls him and says "you're not having this baby without me,"and has suggested we all go out to dinner together, including her husband, whom we absolutely hate.
My husband is not fooled but he is also open to it because, it's his mom, and he misses what she used to be.
I want to be fare to my husband and not be selfish. But this seems like a beginning of a huge letdown and I simple have no interest in her hurting my child like she did her own son.
Advice? What would you do?
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Hey Allison! First off I wanna apologize because you guys are having to go through this with his mom. I’m really hoping she’ll come around & this baby brings back the joy in her life she’s been missing lately. Have you ever tried sitting down having a one on one with her & get to the root of her issues? I have a pretty overwhelming mother in law myself .

Do we have the Same mother in law?

@Ashley unfortunately she is extremely fake and would never acknowledge any wrong doing on her end. I tried hashing things out many years ago which just resulted in me almost passing out from getting so upset because she was twisting everything I said. So ever since I speak as minimally as possible to her. She doesn't let me speak anyway...
So basically, I don't think there is a way to fix our relationship.
I have been very accommodating to her for my husband in the past. I just feel like the past year has done irreparable damage, and I just want better for my child.

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@Allison I'm currently dealing with a very very similar issue. Feel free to message me. Maybe we can combat our MIL together

@Antonina, thank you for the advice. I know my instincts are right, but it's so hard when someone else's feelings are involved. We put an offer on a house in different state a few days ago. I can only pray it's accepted and we can move far away from her. I know it's the best thing for us all. I have had to pick up the pieces of my husband over the past year, and I don't think I could bear allowing any harm to my kid.
I also agree with you on the fantasy thing. Unfortunately, it's hard for him to see otherwise.