Does anyone else feel like a single mum In relationship

So context. Me and my partner have a 3.5 month old who is currently going through the 4 month sleep regression and I think is also teeththing. So life right now feels impossible What doesn’t help is that? He is working 12 hour days Monday and Tuesday then Wednesday, Thursday and Friday he collects his other children (my step children)from school and we have them for dinner and doesn’t get after dropping them off until 830. As we don’t see them as daily he likes to spend as much time with them as possible whilst I’m still looking after lo!

By the time he’s back from work and had a shower bedtime routine is done!

And by the time he’s back from dropping the other two off she’s in bed

I literally feel like I’m doing this all by myself! Until every other weekend when we don’t have the other two.

Someone give me some advice

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Youre not alone in this, my partner went back to work 2 days after I had an emergency section so I've been doing pretty much everything alone since.
I didn't mind so much while he was working but he's been out of work for around 4 weeks now and I've still done every early morning wake up, every bed time, every bottle and everything in between. He has his other son on a weekend and does EVERYTHING for him which makes it more irritating as he's not the same with our little boy x

bless your heart. See me and my partner are quite open with feelings and he is aware however I understand nothing can change with his other children and I wouldn’t want that! There’s mum is toxic AF and they love spending time here. And Monday Tuesday it’s on overtime and I know we need the money to pay bills etc. it’s just so tough isn’t it xx

that sounds incredibly infuriating! I’m sorry your having to deal with that!! You poor thing x

yeah it absolutely does, we've had so many arguments about it and I've told him I feel like a single parent. He'll play & entertain him for a little while but if he cries it's me that deals with it because apparently he only wants me.
I do it for my little boy, he's worth it all x

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Is this normal?

Is it just my husband that does this? He is able to work from home via his computer and in the mornings and evenings he is on there doing his job. When he is done for the day he tends to stay in the room and either play video games or watch something. He will occasionally come out and play with the girls for a few minutes and that’s it but when I really need him he says he is busy. My daughters are both 1 year old now and I am just wondering how much involvement should he have with them now?
Idk if this is the norm or not…..

Saying NO to buying toys etc

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Debating getting her a tablet or dvd player right now on long car rides I end up giving her my phone because I get so overwhelmed sitting in between both of them screaming and crying.

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-A very overwhelmed and anxious to move mama 😓

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