Can anyone relate?

Does anyone else’s MIL act over the top happy to see you and act like she’s your best friend but then talk shit about you to your husband behind your back?? I hate the fakeness and see right through her bullshit. It’s pathetic. She does not respect my boundaries and does not understand why I don’t want her passing my baby around to all her friends. She’s made remarks to my husband that “I can’t keep her bubbled forever” JUST because I didn’t want her passing my little girl over to every Tom, Dick, and Harry. Lol. If she keeps it up, she won’t get to hold my baby at all because I’m sick of her shit.

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I don’t know if my mil actually talks smack behind my back to my fiancé but I do not like my baby being passed around to anyone I do not know just for “cuddles” especially so early on. 😤

she is driving my baby and I further and further away from her. It’s sad because she’ll never change too.

ugh! This is why I HATE gatherings. Lol I’ve been saying no a lot more lately. I’m so over the BS.

My mil is narcissistic and manipulative almost all her intentions are selfish and if you stick up for yourself to her she will play the victim or treat you worse. It makes it worse for me because my fiancé is an only child. He has told me some things she has said behind my back and I just kind of laugh. But yes, she portrays herself as an Angel in front of other people but behind closed doors… almost the exact opposite.

I feel like she takes all glory from me being a first time mum. My finance and me want to have another baby in the future and I’m just scarred like I don’t want to bcuz of this.

yes that’s exactly my situation too-it sucks!

I definitely wanna have another but she stresses me tf out with it all.

Yes! She talks to her son about when she can come to see my daughter behind my back because she knows that I will say no, and cries about everything to make us feel guilty about our decisions. She then pretends to want to help, but I told her that her attitude makes me feel anxious.

ugh I don’t blame you. That would make me feel anxious as well!

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Is it bad of me to think this or no?

My husband has been abroad for work (1 day and exploring for 1 day) for 2 and a half days which means I’ve had both kids (1 year and 4 year old) for 2 and a half days plus cooking, cleaning, taking them to clubs, bedtimes!
He came home late afternoon and said I’m so tired, I just need to chill. I said can you wash up whilst I sort kids dinner out, he said he’ll do it later which means he won’t do it and I’ll end up doing it so I said no do it now please otherwise I’ll end up doing it and he said well you have been home and I’ve been away so you’ve just been relaxing.
Don’t know what planet he is on but having the kids alone for 2.5 days is not relaxing. I was stressed!

When he was away, I did miss him and wanted him to come back but now he’s back, I want him to go away again😂
Is that bad?

Post partum dad

I have a 2 month old. A few weeks ago my husband crashed out because he didn't feel like he was getting to bond with her. I started exclusively breastfeeding around that time and honestly didnt see the big deal. Baby and I left for a few days and when we got back home, everything was fine. He was extremely hands-on. He helped with my meals, her bedtime, bath, stories.....for a few weeks it was great. Then he randomly sounds depressed af. He says our lo is better off without him, he wants to sleep all day , he asks me not to watch tv then tried playing a video game. He refused to reply to me when i asked any follow-up questions. Then he woke up our baby trying to race me to the bathroom first thing in the morning . He's doing a weird mix of crying, trying, and giving up. Im starting to feel like I cant handle him not being able to handle life with baby and just want to be alone. Are there resources for men?

Really bothered by this

A friend posted this and it really bothers me because that is exactly how she parents her kid, and it's rather unfortunate because when our kids hang out together, her kid has a meltdown at least 5x within an hour. We have know them for years and it's only gotten worse. My kids will concede to hers, because they don't want to see their friend crying, but it sucks because they give up so much of their toys and enjoyment to keep the peace. We aren't hanging out as much anymore but it's rather sad to think she doesn't intervene more in her child tantrums and just let's it slide

My 2 year old won’t eat nothing but snacks

Is this normal ? He won’t even try anything I eat .. he really only like pizza fries and spaghetti… nuggets and snacks bananas some other fruit but like anything else he won’t eat if try but I don’t want to force him I’m just I feel like bad I mean he isn’t losing weight I breastfeed mostly still

Feeding

My son is coming up to five months and I just started giving him oatmeal and rice cereal. When can you start trying veggies or fruits? I only give him the oatmeal or rice cereal once a day right now which is what the paediatrician had said to do. I’m just curious to when anybody tried anything else with their kids cause my son eats a lot of formula and he’s VERY curious when I eat.

Shift worker daddies - advice please?

My husband works shifts (6am-6pm days or 6pm-6am nights) so when he’s on shift we either get about an hour or 2 before he goes to work or an hour or 2 when we gets home with him.

I don’t think people who aren’t married/have babies with shift workers fully understand the impact of feeling like a solo parent sometimes.

Does anyone have any advice? I do have parents who can help but I struggle to leave my baby with others as I always feel like they don’t understand the need for tracking wake windows or feeds and our baby will not sleep unless we black out a room or go for a car drive . Everyone seems to think ‘if he’s tired he’ll drop off’ - no he’ll just get overtired and have to then pay for it during his night sleep. So I feel like it’s just easier for me to do it all myself.

When my husbands off work he is great but I do take the mental load of telling him what to do or even reminding him of wake windows etc because he’s not here and forgets routines. He’s also being tested for ADHD currently so there’s that on top of shift work.

Just looking for advice on how to stay sane/keep routines or share loads with shifts workers?

Thank you ❤️