This is so frustrating...

I hate that I have to teach my husband how to take care of his son.

I've been home with my 18 month old since he's been born and recently started going back to work.

My husband handles the.mornings with my son and drop offs. I have to teach him everything and I'm annoyed!

I get that he hasn't had the time/experience to know what to do, but I hate that our society is built to force women to stay at home with baby while dad works. Of course my husband wouldn't know what to do.

But damn it, I wish it wasn't like this!

It's just added stress now. I had to learn on my own, now I have to teach someone else what I learned, but.of.course it's going to change in a few months.

I just find it annoying. I wish he knew what to do and knew how to just figure things out without.me.

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I will end up teaching my husband a ton. He was a youngest child with no cousins, no babies at church, no friends with babies, etc. I've grown up with little cousins, little brothers (one who is only 9), and helping in the nursery at church. So he's never changed a diaper, fed or burped a baby, dressed a baby, etc. And it's hard to figure things out on your own. I'm more coming from the perspective of "so many women have no one, or may as well have no one because their partner won't help. Here's my husband eager to take care of our baby and I want to make that a good experience for him, just like I've had my whole life learning these things."

I understand why you're frustrated and don'tat all mean to discount that, but I really believe that turning things to a positive outlook helps us be less stressed and generally happier in all areas of life.

I agree with that perspective. I think I resent him because I had no experience with little babies before having my son and it's frustrates me that I did all the work and now I have to share the knowledge on top of it.

I think it makes me feel like it's unablanced and that's what pisses me off, but you're right in saying that changing perspective helps a lot ❤️ I'll try and look at it from different angles.

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