What age were your babies when youve let other family members take them for the day?

As a 1 off my parents had my little
boy while me and my partner went to an overnight spa stay for my birthday when he was 2.5months old. Not sure how I’d feel about it being every week though. I was lucky that I didn’t have to go back to work until he was a year old, but did kit days from when he was about 9 months where I did a couple of days at a time

this is what im worroed about with the expectation of it being every week and I dont want to cause an argument with parents :/ I just dont think im ready for it yet 🙈

At 4 months my Lg was with me everyday all day! Wouldn’t of even crossed my mine for someone to have her for a whole day! The time they are small is so precious! You have plenty of time to get used to being away from baby before work (you may even be grateful when the time comes!) enjoy having your baby now! Plus weekend is family time for us as in our family and we’ll see other family but it’s all together

Other people should take care of your baby to help you out, when it suits you, not to suit them. So if you don’t want to give up your baby for a day every weekend, absolutely don’t! I would compromise - make plans to do something fun with your partner that you wouldn’t be able to do with baby and ask your in-laws to have him - but make it clear that it’s not a weekly thing

No advice but you're not alone I feel exactly the same 💖

Our comfort levels are different depending on who it is. We let my MIL take him for a weekend at a month old and we had no issues, she loves it and would be our emergency guardian for my son as we trust her the most. My parents took him for the weekend at about 5 months and struggled so they’re more comfortable with day visits. We go off how comfortable everyone else is as well as us

Do you work weekends? I wouldn’t dream of anyone having my little one for a full day every weekend without me there if I wasn’t working at any age. Weekends for us are family time to spend together.

Definitely stand your ground, and as above only agree to things that help you out. Not that suit others!

i feel like this is going to be me 😂 i just miss him too much when im not with him!

Thankyou everyone its made me feel much better! Im not ready for that at all so im going to stand my ground and use some of these ideas for days out etc and have them involved :) xx

My MIL insists on seeing my 3 month old every week for a few hours, sometimes I go do something like get groceries or get my hair done but sometimes I stay home with her there and do laundry, tidy up, organize my closet, or just visit with her. Maybe something like that would be more comfortable especially at the beginning!

Maybe every other weekend or once a month to compromise ? Or half the day only ?

My mum had my little boy from 3 months for a day a week so I could work and that’s carried on now he’s almost 2! Totally understand about feeling different about in-laws, mine are 10 years older than my mum and not of the best of health but I just don’t like the way they are around him so I don’t let them have him a day a week, I’d just thank them for the offer and say you’ll let them know when you need to take them up on it! X

my baby has been going to my in laws once a week since she was a week old. I didn't like it at first but I know she needs to be able to stay out without us if there's an emergency.
I dont have parents myself so there's no issue of anyone being left out but I imagine his family is feeling left out maybe alternate which grandparents have the baby every other week ?

My son is almost 1 and in that time someone has taken him from me 4 times. 2x for a date night, once for my 6 week check up, and once to for my mother in law to “try out” babysitting, my husband was home and they were all at our house.
At 3 months I did go back to work, so my mom watches him m-f. But, if I’m home so is baby. I feel there’s no need for him to go somewhere.
Do what you’re comfortable with. Especially at that age.

This might be on the extreme side but my husband and I both agreed that we won't have anyone watching our son but us, we figured that as a family there's nothing we'd do that we wouldn't all do together, we just don't see a need to leave him with anyone else, which I'm very grateful he feels this way because my anxiety would be insane if I had to leave him with someone else

My lo is 4 months and I really would like some help but I physically can’t I don’t know if it’s overprotective or wrong but I just and be away from her I don’t trust anyone except my partner who works long hours

I've really appreciated the break when mum or my MIL has had baby and I love the bond he now has with them. His face lights up when we get out of the car at their houses. That bond is really important to me and at 8m old I feel its helped with him socially.

That being said, I needed to do it gradually and if you want to be with your baby and hang out with them all the time then do it. Maybe say they can have him for an afternoon or a morning every other week etc.

They may feel that because your mum does 1 day a week they should/want to do the same. But it needs to be what works for you x

If people want to help with the baby then that’s great but it has to be on your terms, only do what you are comfortable with. Personally my daughter was never away from me until over a year old and I still wouldn’t want her away from me a weekend day every week, so you’re not too attached- it’s normal.

2 months for a friends wedding but my son had already spent a lot of time with his grandparents with me there and has always been completely comfortable around them.

If it came to wanting to allow mil to take him maybe you could split the day so your parents get half day then they get the other half. So it's still just one day but both have some time. But if you don't want your mil to have time at all like that yet that's totally valid just thought of this as a potential idea

Sounds totally normal, listen to your gut! X