Exhausted

I had my baby 5 days ago.. I feel so guilty that I feel this way because she is my miracle rainbow baby but i am just so exhausted and i literally can not catch a break. anytime I try to go to sleep when I put her down she wakes up as soon as I’m about to fall asleep. she will cry if she isn’t held and that’s the only time she will actually fall asleep. I don’t even have time to eat, drink, take a shower, and I barley even have time to use the bathroom because im literally doing this all by myself. I love her more than words can explain but i just wish I had some help. I’m crying every 2 seconds and i just don’t feel like myself anymore. I’m really hoping this doesn’t last. I just want to feel like myself again. but I also want her to have everything and be the happiest she can be.

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Sending love! I’m in the thick of it too with my 2 week old. It is so dang hard!

Aw i think what you are experiencing is completely normal, it’s such a life altering experience having a babe and even more doin it alone. You need to try to make time for yourself to get some self care in even if it means jumping in the shower for 5 minutes to wash your hair and feel like a normal Human while baby cries for a bit. Everyday will get easier in the long run as you both get a new routine down. Be on the look out for signs of postpartum depression, and please bring these concerns up with your OB at your next visit. You can do it mama, you ARE doing it. Hang in there ❤️❤️❤️

You are doing amazing and exactly what that baby needs. It’s terrible I feel like new moms are not setup for success here in the US. is there anyone you can ask to come hold the baby while you take a nap? I know it’s so hard to ask for help but trust me people want to help. With my first I felt so guilty with my thoughts and felt so alone but just know you are definitely not alone ♥️

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