Toddler cries with father

My 14 month old cries every time his father picks him up for his 3 night visits with him. He pushes his body away from his father and he screams when he gets in the car with him. This has been on going for months now. When I pick him up from his fathers he always points towards my car for us to leave, and doesn’t allow his father to kiss him goodbye. He seems relieved that I’m there and never cries when he leaves his father. Is this normal?? What’s worrying me is that he will cry when a good friend of mine leaves after visiting, and seems to be more attached to my friend than his father.

I’ve had a horrible relationship with his father, he is a narcissist and has been abusive in all ways. I’m trying to separate my relationship with him to his relationship with our son, but I can’t help but notice how our son is reacting to him. He has seen our son consistently, and in the past few months since spending more nights with our son, he has come back to my place with a lip bruise, infected head scrape, and a dog bite (thankfully the skin didn’t break). His father has had random excuses each time for how these incidents have happened. I’ve made sure to take him to see his doctor every time, and i took him to the ER when i picked him up from his fathers and was told a dog tried to bite him the previous day while he was petting her. I’m contacting a child psychologist to seek help but trying to figure out what other steps I should take to be proactive and get to the bottom of this. I want to know what’s going on at his fathers house. I’m worried he’s being neglectful :(

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Momma you have an intuition and I’m happy that you’re beginning to tap into it. If you feel something is not right, I promise you it is NOT right! I’m sorry to say this, but coming from somebody who was abused as a child, these are all the signs! There are also so many types of abuse. Please keep him away from the dad, get the psychologist, keep track of the ER records, seek out support even if that’s child protective services in regards to him being at his fathers… fight for custody!! With what you’ve already said I don’t think he’s just being neglectful… there are probably all types of abuse happening. You yourself said that he is narcissistic and has been abusive to you That usually doesn’t stop for the child. Abusive people become more irritated with children. I don’t mean to worry you, but you did bring up the worry first. My sister had the signs, but my mom didn’t look into it. A few weeks later… she had sever brain damage as she was abused by her father. Please protect him!

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On the weekends he was doing 6 days, one weekend day off, but now has both off.

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"I don't get why you're so snappy with me"

I said - Probably because I haven't had a break since December.

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Then "do you think I like not having a connection to my child"... But that's on him? He never sits to play with her. He "doesn't see the point". He's stated that this age is boring to him.

Since she's been born, he has been to a friend's once a month. Football - He stopped going for 7months, but has been the last two weekends.

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