My toddler is incredibly clingy

I don’t know when I should start to worry. Here are some things that concern me:

1. Will not be put down in a store. He won’t walk next to me, even holding my hand. He has to be held the whole time or be put in the cart (he still asks to be held if he’s in the cart).
2. Same thing for any event. Zoo, aquarium, festival. Has to be held or will scream/cry at my feet.
3. Rarely (if ever) let’s me be in another room, even if he can see/hear me. He will come crying to me in the kitchen or laundry room yelling to be picked up. If I say no he will pull at my clothes/push me & cry/scream.
4. Won’t let me get ready in the mornings. Cries at me to be “all done” & pushes me. Even if given books/toys/etc. Sometimes he will be okay if I let him watch TV.

I know toddlers need to feel secure but I don’t see these behaviors in any of his other friends & it’s starting to concern me that he isn’t feeling any independence in these situations.

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Following. Because mine is exactly like Yours, to the tee.

Honestly as hard and stressful as it might be, you’re his safe space. I don’t know that I’d be worried about anything being wrong other than he’s just very attached to you.

That’s honestly really good to hear. I don’t want to worry if it’s normal toddler behavior! He’s my first & I don’t have any good friends with kids. And the other mom friends I’ve made have super independent toddlers lol

It’s tough! Especially when I don’t really know what falls under normal & when to start to worry

My daughter is pretty similar. It’s frustrating at times, but I know she just feels secure and is still so new to the world. I’d give him another year or so before you let yourself worry! He seems to feels safe with you, which is never a bad thing!

Yes I agree! I feel the same way bc she’s my first so I don’t know what’s normal either.

Do you co sleep i have notice that kids that co sleep tend to be more clingy which is totally normal at this age.....

We do! Started to around 18mo. That makes sense! I didn’t think about it. I know his friends don’t cosleep

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