thoughts?

I'm curious about how you found out. Your Dr shouldve picked up on it during your pregnancy because it can cause serious complications. If you have it and they didn't then, he couldve caught it recently. Men that pay for sex at message places don't usually just go once. Smh.

I would talk to your doctor and get tested to see if you even have it, and then worry about of it transferred or anything. With all the blood work involved with pregnancy, they should've seen that in the results. So you may have been lucky and not have it.

On a side note, I would be reconsidering this relationship, if not leaving already. He brought this into your home and risked you and your children's health by being unfaithful. And he clearly wasn't safe about it.

If it didn’t get noticed during pregnancy I’d seriously question if that’s the only time he’s cheated. It would be nearly impossible for them to miss it.

@Reese agreed, all that blood work should've caught it. I didn't even think he may have caught it recently, but you're right. If he got away with it once, I'm sure he's been back again. And clearly not smart about it if he caught something.

If you have it, it could be transferred from you to baby from nursing.

So I got curious and did some googling. And doctors actually test specifically for syphilis twice during a pregnancy. I've been pregnant twice now and didn't even realize that. 😅

Anyway, so if they didn't bring it up with you, you didn't have it during pregnancy. I would still get tested now, though, just in case.

During both my pregnancies they did at least one test for infection and lots of blood/urine. Are you sure this isn’t recent?

that's right. Incognito, check that cc statement and bank account for suspicious/large cash withdrawals, transfers (cash app/venmo) and payments to massage places. Also check the search history and maps history. He probably would've used maps to get there. Don't tell him what you're looking for.

Are you sure there wasn’t a more recent infidelity? The first thing my doctor did with both my pregnancies was an STD panel

They would have tested you for this during your pregnancy. So it’s at least more recent than that. I would go get tested now before you freak out too much. If you get positive results you can ask all those questions then.

During pregnancy they test for everything. However if you don't do then after personally then you might miss something. I'd suggest just go to your gp and tell them you need a full blood work due to partner cheating and they'll do it all again. Because if you aren't specific why you want the test they don't do each and every one all the time. And this guy is dangerous.

I don’t think he’s being completely honest about the cheating time line…