I feel guilty admitting this but I’m experiencing huge feelings of disappointment after finding out the gender. Not only had I idealised being a boy mum ever since I was little, I did a chromosome test at 6 weeks and it came back boy! So for the past 12 weeks of pregnancy I’ve had it in my head that I was having a little boy. The gender scan revealed it was a girl and I cried, sadness not happiness.
Has anyone else experienced this but feel bad showing it?
It’s impacted my relationships. My mum has since blocked me and is not speaking to me because …”why can’t you just be happy you’ve got a healthy baby.” “Grow up.” The news is still recent, so I’m still processing it but now feel like I can’t be or show any other emotion than happiness. Even though I’m feeling a little overwhelmed and I don’t know… am I wrong? How do I explain this to family?
Of course I will love my little girl, it’s just going to take me time to process 🩷
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Usually blood tests are more accurate than scans… due to baby hiding in different positions. I think you need to get a second opinion perhaps?

I can empathise with you. It’ll take time but rest assured, when your little one arrives you’ll be so focused on them and who they are that you won’t be able to imagine it any other way x

I understand what you mean. I already have a daughter and I’m pregnant with twin boys. I was hoping at least one of them would be a girl. It sucks but just take the time to process it and remember that by the time your baby girl is here you couldn’t imagine her being anyone else.

I went through this with my first pregnancy, but I wanted a girl and had a boy. My mom told me that u should be grateful I was having a healthy baby and I told her that she had to respect my feelings. I had all these expectations of having a girl. It’s hard to let go of all those expectations. I eventually came to terms with having a son and have enjoyed being a boy mom.

I’ve been the same. It’s my first baby and I had a feeling it was a boy and at my 20 week scan I was told it was a girl I was gutted and sulked for a week.
I’m now 25 weeks and only really getting used to it but just glad she’s healthy and I’m sure all will change once she’s here

@Wanyu at 6 weeks it had to be at home sneak peak test, not the nipt test. So before she mailed it back in it must of got contaminated while doing it at home.

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