Lacking Intimacy

Lately I feel like my SO no longer wants to touch me yet alone be affectionate with me anymore. Before becoming pregnant he used to complain that we weren’t having enough sex like when we first started dating. Now it’s almost nonexistent. As my belly has gotten bigger I feel as if I’ve become less attractive to him. Lately he’s been hanging out with his friends more and less time with me.

Him cheating has never crossed my mind, but normally he would never go this long (1 month) so idk what to even think at this point. Thoughts?

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ugh i feel you love. :( it’s horrible to feel this way sometimes (less attractive due to our pumpkin bellies) especially because some times i will feel sooo beautiful. now lately i haven’t had any issue with my partner/intimacy — he doesn’t seem to mind at all and actually likes the belly/proud of it in some weird way. but there was definitely periods especially in second trimester we were going through the same thing. honestly it could just be that the stress of baby being here sooo soon is making him not in the mood, which would explain him (wrongly) being more distant and spending more time out/doing dumb things with friends/etc..or it could just be baby/bump getting bigger - some men get really awkward or turned off for some reason just from pregnancy or the idea of a baby being “so close” to them during the deed (which is dumb but i kinda can get it ig) have you tried talking to him to figure out what the cause could be? there are honestly so many things that could be causing it

but please keep in mind your body is doing exactly as it should. providing a safe and healthy home for your growing baby. cherish these moments if nothing else, between you and babe cause they will be gone so soon. 🥺 i’m sure you look absolutely beautiful during this stage in your life, and shame on him for not making you feel like it. you are doing an amazing and beautiful thing. creating life. and that’s one of the most attractive things on this earth. please don’t forget this, dumb men don’t understand the complete mental, physical, and emotion change we have went through from the start of this to where we are now—so it’s easy for them to not think so deeply about it. but you are beautiful and your body is doing everything right for you and babe, sending you all the love and positivity momma💜💜

Some men are scared to be intimate with a pregnant women
It’s nothing wrong with talking to him about it

I would literally ask “like dam you don’t wanna f**k me anymore” 😂😂😂😂😂😂

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Am I in the wrong?

So my MIL has been weird with me from day 1. My partner and I fell pregnant within months of seeing each other so we understood her reaction to me being pregnant was never going to be positive.

She then started going through a divorce when I hit the 12 week mark and we moved out, she didn’t reach out for a couple of weeks but we assumed she was just busy with lawyer stuff so didn’t pester. However weeks then turned into months etc. my partner would text his mum and she’d ignore the texts.

I was 8.5 months pregnant when she decided she wanted to come back. She apologised to us both directly for being absent my entire pregnancy and explained she was depressed, struggling etc. we decided to forgive her and let it go.

Our son was born August 2023 and the first year of his life she was present and a great grandmother to him, don’t get me wrong she was still “off” with me like whenever I would speak about my son she wouldn’t respond to me, she would come over and not really engage much with me, make snidely comments about me going back to work at 5 months PP despite the fact I’m providing for her son to be a stay at home dad etc but I just thought I’d be civil for my son. We got engaged in October 2023, she didn’t congratulate us.

January 2025 she started being VERY OFF. She deleted me off all social media’s for no reason, blocked my number. My partner asked why and she said she didn’t like me as a person. So I decided from then on if she wanted to see our son my partner would take him to her.

The rest of 2025, she was very inconsistent. We would ask her to take our son as she usually would and she’d say “can’t I’m dying my hair today” and silly excuses. We then had 4 miscarriages that year and not once did she send condolences or offer to support. It got to August, our sons bday and she got him 2 of the same gifts we did - she came to our house and I said aw it’s okay these things happen no big deal. Her mood changed and when my parents arrived my son got really excited and she left. She then text my partner that night saying my parents were rude to her and turning our son against her? 😂 he’s 2!!!!!

My partner had enough and had a go at her, saying no wonder my son was excited to see my parents when he sees them every 2 weeks. Since then she went in a mood and stopped speaking to us and visiting or allowing my partner to visit.

We fell pregnant in August 2025 and this baby has stuck. We shared our pregnancy with family and she hasn’t contacted us. From August to Feb 2026 she was radio silent, hasn’t asked for our sons at all. Ignoring texts.

Today, she has contacted my partner to try apologise and worm her way back in, I told my partner I’m having none of it and she won’t be seeing our son or new baby as she yet again has disappeared for over 6 months for no reason which isn’t fair on us or our son as he’s getting older and more aware!

Am I being reasonable? The way I see it is if this was a parent acting this inconsistent and being deadbeat they wouldn’t be allowed to run back in.

When our daughters are grown

Are we teaching them that circumcised boys are dirty and unclean?

Bi curious

I’ve been with my partner 3 years, when we have sec i always orgasm, he makes the effort to make sure I do, but it’s probably cause I’m always thinking about a woman 🤦🏻‍♀️ since having a our baby 8mo I feel it’s become less maybe once a week and more of a chore to him, I just don’t feel desired or wanted enough, feels laboured and boring, I buy sexy outfits, toys to spice things up, and never say no to his advances but they very few and far between, it’s mainly me making the moves, I do love him but I can’t get the thought of having sec with another woman out of my mind 😫 helppppp, UK W.Yorkshire

You’re at the check out and notice the cashier gives you senior citizen discount. You’re very clearly under the cut off. Would you be excited for the extra savings or offended?

Turns out Monday morning at my Kroger and the lady slipped it in without saying anything. This has happened to my mom before and we were both obviously happy with a random discount but one of my sisters in law said she’d die if that happened to her because she’d be so embarrassed 😂