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I don’t feel like I enjoy sex lol… like I’ll do it but it kinda feels like a chore .. idk how to explain it . I’m just not aroused most of the time and I just want it to be over 😂😂😂 it doesn’t feel the same and I don’t really crave it .. is that normal????

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it sounds like you’re having sex with the wrong person 😬

damn 😅

Hi I’m in the same boat and I’m absolutely in love with my husband and find him extremely attractive so I don’t think it necessarily means you shouldn’t be together. it could be hormones or stress or depression. Everyone goes through phases where their libido dips and spikes.

This book the woman code talks about how diet and excersize affect the hormones which affect libido and energy

Yeah i think I hit that stage once. Because it wasn’t enjoyable. It seemed like the time I was about to. It just left lol. But I’ve learnt what I like and we talk during sex also what he likes and what I like

i didn’t mean that offensive in any way by the way!! but i feel that if you’re with the right person, sex will always just feel right- unless i’ve just landed lucky in that sense 😅
i think not craving it is normal, sometimes i just don’t want to- it’s normal to have spells like that but to want it to be over, is something else i think. does your partner know what you like? because that’s soooo important! if they don’t, tell / show them 😋

lol I didn’t get offended I just laughed really hard because I’m like …maybe you’re right ? 😂 idk most of the time I just get annoyed by him because he’s not romantic but he will always make sure to get his 😂 like dang dude sometimes I just want a hug but no you wanna be grabbing up on me all the time and talking dirty ALL THE TIME. Like jeez I wanna feel more than just like a sex doll 🥲

oh good! i have to make sure 😅 it’s so hard when you’re with someone who isn’t romantic but always make sure they get theirs 🙄 it’s like we need pleasure too!! i think because most men don’t need foreplay or anything, they can get hard at any time for anyone but women are more romantic and need that foreplay to get us in the mood. i don’t think they realise that we aren’t just sex machines 🫠
make sure this man knows how you’re feeling girl, and if he doesn’t want to step up, there’s plenty more men who will 😋

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Family culture difference on money

Sorry this is long, I hope some of you get to the end and give advice!!!

So I’m a very thrifty person, things are tight at the moment, the cost of living crisis and my house is heated by oil so things are extortionate. We aren’t on the bread line but we aren’t flush, hubby might be made redundant so there is some financial pressure.

Sometimes I buy my sons something nicer, on the justification that I can sell it on after (♥️ vinted ♥️). I have also been planning on pretty much breaking even most of the baby things I bought from face book market place, side by crib, baby changing unit, etc.

Hubby and I have different money cultures with our families (he’s Indian, I’m British). I’m my family we don’t mix money, we would help each other out if someone was in trouble and will get each other gifts on special occasions. With hubby’s family money is much more fluid, they will give each other things worth thousands of £ just because.

Hubby’s brother bought him a new laptop and a new Google phone, he’s been very generous to hubby. Hubby hasn’t given the same back because brother is much richer.

Hubby and I mostly share finances. If it’s relevant I’m the higher earner.

Now to the point! My babies are so cute they’ve given hubby’s brother (currently single) baby rabies. He’s asked for our baby stuff when we’re done with it. He’s been so generous to hubby I feel really stingy saying no. But I’d never have bought some of the stuff if I wasn’t going to get a return on it - the thought makes me a bit anxious. If we gave all our baby stuff given the second hand value it still wouldn’t equal what the brother had given hubby.

I thought maybe I could give him some stuff but sell some stuff, but hubby said then his brother will just have to go out and buy that stuff, so I should name my price and ask his brother for the money. That makes me feel very uncomfortable, given how generous the brother has been to hubby.

So what do I do ladies? Give it all and suck it up? Give part of it and sell parts on Vinted/FB, or ask hubbys brother for money for it and be uncomfortable? Or do you see another solution?

No one is being entitled or rude here, just a culture difference I need to navigate.

My relationship is failing I feel so alone.. I need a girlfriend to talk to :(

I'm a sahm and I feel so stuck... anyone going through the same thing? I could really use someone to relate to and talk through this with. Feeling so vulnerable but if I don't I won't be able to pull myself out of this

What are we giving our soon-to-be 3yo for their birthdays?

We have the magnetiles, we have the kinetic sand and play doh, we have the play kitchen…

Literally, is there anything left in the world to buy this spoilt kid? 😅

Go to dinner ideas

Looking for recipes you use in your family that are not the traditional lasagna, shepards pie, ect

Is it just me?

I’m 35. I have a 21 month old and i’m 5 months pregnant. I have no friends. Everyone has either drifted away or ghosted me. I don’t know what i’ve done but i’m so lonely now. My best friend of 20 years has ghosted me and i’m heartbroken. I’ve tried to reach out to other friends but never get anywhere. I don’t know how to make new friends. I honestly just feel so alone.

Baby groups?

Hello there!!
I hope you enjoying the 5month babies 🫠 the cuteness outweighs everything over here.
We live in the area of Croydon & need to start going to baby groups ( I NEED it more than him though) but I am a little bit clueless. Any recommendations?
We are happy to travel a bit too.
Thanks ☺️