Living separately

I’m married to my husband for 2 years, been together total of 5 years. I love this man but I hate living with him. He’s so moody and constantly have an attitude. If I didn’t know he was a male, I would think he’s on his period or going through menopause. He always somehow manage to ruin holidays, birthdays, anniversaries etc. It’s supposed to be good memorable days but it has becoming so depressing. Last time we went on vacation, we argued! Idk if it’s because of age, but he’s become more anal each year as time progresses. When he’s happy, he say he will do so many things. When he’s upset; he will refuse to do them. He’s losing his patience with the kids, and he doesn’t give me any credit for being a stay at home mom. He think because he does house work stuff thoroughly once in a blue moon, that he does 90% of everything… and I only do 10%. Our lease is up in December, i want to have a conversation of us still being together but possibly living in separate houses. I don’t even mind if we live in separate cities. I just want peace. I don’t think relationship is meant for me because I hate dealing with peoples bullshit everyday. I just rather be by myself.

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He might be depressed. You mentioned age. How old is he or how much is your age difference?? I grew up with an aunt like this. We just learnt to give her space when she needs it and enjoy her when she's good. Have you tried talking to him about how his character is affecting the family?? Try getting a family counsellor as well. I think he needs some professional help to guide him through whatever he is struggling with. I will not push for separation unless you are absolutely sure you have done everything possible needed to save your family...including considering how yourself you play into the whole scenario. Make the changes that you need to male yourself as his wife and I guarantee you it will manifest in him too.

Some about right … I’m doing the same now!! Separating but on my time it’s no coming back or connecting with my children it’s clipped!! He wants be other females face!! Party and all!! At least you got 2yrs.. 14yrs with him 7 married.. 6 yrs ringless man!! Drinks and all

This is me also. I want peace and not walking on eggshells and not knowing if he's on period or what! Lol

I’m in the same boat as you! We had our kids birthday weekend last week, we went to a water park for two days at the great wolf lodge and he managed to have an attitude. Then it was our daughters actual birthday / our anniversary and he got an attitude too. I’m like go damn. Can I have a break?! Like I can’t enjoy my vacations anymore? Now I just wanna go with just me and my kids on vacation and leave his ass home so he can work and make that money. I did not want to spend that much money on vacation just to be miserable.

dude Forreals! That’s why they call periods MENstrual cycle and MENopause. I don’t even get that hormonal when I’m pregnant or on my period. And it’s like this with him EVERY month it seems like .

Quick questions, does all of your husbands sign are Aries? Or what sign are they?

I love my husband to death but like most men, he's just not emotionally smart. I think this is what us women have to go through that's why I think I'm just gonna be one and done with 1 kid. I can't bank on my husband improving his mental health overnight. Most men are just a handful.

I agree lol 😂

Husband is an Aries sun, good thing my moon(your emotion) is in Aries even if my sun is in pisces. It makes me feisty and not take crap.

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Is this normal?

Is it just my husband that does this? He is able to work from home via his computer and in the mornings and evenings he is on there doing his job. When he is done for the day he tends to stay in the room and either play video games or watch something. He will occasionally come out and play with the girls for a few minutes and that’s it but when I really need him he says he is busy. My daughters are both 1 year old now and I am just wondering how much involvement should he have with them now?
Idk if this is the norm or not…..

Saying NO to buying toys etc

5 year old is getting really envious of others. He is obsessed with items that other kids have at school. I am pestered daily to buy these things in a different style when we already have 3 others. I have seen parents just buying stuff their kid likes which I don't necessarily agree with even when i can afford it. How do you deal with it?

Thoughts?

your soon to be brother in law (upon inquiry) told you that only a few kids from the family were attending his wedding because they are over the age cut off..

Daycare?

Thoughts on daycare?? Truly, I am SCARED to be leaving my kid for daycare. I literally do not trust anyone, not even family (they haven’t given me a reason it’s just trust issues on my end, you never know). He’s turning 3 and I’ve been a sahm the whole time but tbh my man doesn’t make enough for us to move out somewhere more calm . We live in a ‘not so safe’ area in LA and I’m just not used to living here so I just want us to give my son a better life and in order to speed up the process I would have to work.. I do lashes at home and I’d be open to take new clients so I wouldn’t have to look for work but I’m just scared to lose my license 😭

Tablet for kids

Alright don’t need any negative Nancy’s telling me not to get my 2yo a tablet so if that’s what your gunna do please don’t participate in my poll.

We’re about to move cross country 3+ day trip and my 2yo and 9m hate the car I’m talking scream their heads off till they are out of their seats. We’ve already changed car seats and it didn’t help so I’d like to at least have one entertained and sit next to baby and try and distract her or put her to sleep. Our new car has tvs but since they are rear faced my 2yo can’t see it.

Debating getting her a tablet or dvd player right now on long car rides I end up giving her my phone because I get so overwhelmed sitting in between both of them screaming and crying.

And yes I do bring different toys I bring snacks I play songs try to distract her other ways but for the sake of not losing my mind on this move I think this is best.

-A very overwhelmed and anxious to move mama 😓

Separation Anxiety

My baby is nearly 6 months old and has just entered the separation anxiety stage… this evening I was trying to cook dinner whilst my husband was with the baby and he was just crying every time he couldn’t see me, with full blown hysterical sobbing, and as soon as he saw me again he started giggling and smiling. Any tips on how to stop this? And how long might this phase last?
My husband felt pretty disheartened and upset 😢