Living separately

I’m married to my husband for 2 years, been together total of 5 years. I love this man but I hate living with him. He’s so moody and constantly have an attitude. If I didn’t know he was a male, I would think he’s on his period or going through menopause. He always somehow manage to ruin holidays, birthdays, anniversaries etc. It’s supposed to be good memorable days but it has becoming so depressing. Last time we went on vacation, we argued! Idk if it’s because of age, but he’s become more anal each year as time progresses. When he’s happy, he say he will do so many things. When he’s upset; he will refuse to do them. He’s losing his patience with the kids, and he doesn’t give me any credit for being a stay at home mom. He think because he does house work stuff thoroughly once in a blue moon, that he does 90% of everything… and I only do 10%. Our lease is up in December, i want to have a conversation of us still being together but possibly living in separate houses. I don’t even mind if we live in separate cities. I just want peace. I don’t think relationship is meant for me because I hate dealing with peoples bullshit everyday. I just rather be by myself.

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He might be depressed. You mentioned age. How old is he or how much is your age difference?? I grew up with an aunt like this. We just learnt to give her space when she needs it and enjoy her when she's good. Have you tried talking to him about how his character is affecting the family?? Try getting a family counsellor as well. I think he needs some professional help to guide him through whatever he is struggling with. I will not push for separation unless you are absolutely sure you have done everything possible needed to save your family...including considering how yourself you play into the whole scenario. Make the changes that you need to male yourself as his wife and I guarantee you it will manifest in him too.

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Some about right … I’m doing the same now!! Separating but on my time it’s no coming back or connecting with my children it’s clipped!! He wants be other females face!! Party and all!! At least you got 2yrs.. 14yrs with him 7 married.. 6 yrs ringless man!! Drinks and all

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This is me also. I want peace and not walking on eggshells and not knowing if he's on period or what! Lol

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I’m in the same boat as you! We had our kids birthday weekend last week, we went to a water park for two days at the great wolf lodge and he managed to have an attitude. Then it was our daughters actual birthday / our anniversary and he got an attitude too. I’m like go damn. Can I have a break?! Like I can’t enjoy my vacations anymore? Now I just wanna go with just me and my kids on vacation and leave his ass home so he can work and make that money. I did not want to spend that much money on vacation just to be miserable.

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dude Forreals! That’s why they call periods MENstrual cycle and MENopause. I don’t even get that hormonal when I’m pregnant or on my period. And it’s like this with him EVERY month it seems like .

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Quick questions, does all of your husbands sign are Aries? Or what sign are they?

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I love my husband to death but like most men, he's just not emotionally smart. I think this is what us women have to go through that's why I think I'm just gonna be one and done with 1 kid. I can't bank on my husband improving his mental health overnight. Most men are just a handful.

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I agree lol 😂

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Husband is an Aries sun, good thing my moon(your emotion) is in Aries even if my sun is in pisces. It makes me feisty and not take crap.

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