Living separately

I’m married to my husband for 2 years, been together total of 5 years. I love this man but I hate living with him. He’s so moody and constantly have an attitude. If I didn’t know he was a male, I would think he’s on his period or going through menopause. He always somehow manage to ruin holidays, birthdays, anniversaries etc. It’s supposed to be good memorable days but it has becoming so depressing. Last time we went on vacation, we argued! Idk if it’s because of age, but he’s become more anal each year as time progresses. When he’s happy, he say he will do so many things. When he’s upset; he will refuse to do them. He’s losing his patience with the kids, and he doesn’t give me any credit for being a stay at home mom. He think because he does house work stuff thoroughly once in a blue moon, that he does 90% of everything… and I only do 10%. Our lease is up in December, i want to have a conversation of us still being together but possibly living in separate houses. I don’t even mind if we live in separate cities. I just want peace. I don’t think relationship is meant for me because I hate dealing with peoples bullshit everyday. I just rather be by myself.

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He might be depressed. You mentioned age. How old is he or how much is your age difference?? I grew up with an aunt like this. We just learnt to give her space when she needs it and enjoy her when she's good. Have you tried talking to him about how his character is affecting the family?? Try getting a family counsellor as well. I think he needs some professional help to guide him through whatever he is struggling with. I will not push for separation unless you are absolutely sure you have done everything possible needed to save your family...including considering how yourself you play into the whole scenario. Make the changes that you need to male yourself as his wife and I guarantee you it will manifest in him too.

Some about right … I’m doing the same now!! Separating but on my time it’s no coming back or connecting with my children it’s clipped!! He wants be other females face!! Party and all!! At least you got 2yrs.. 14yrs with him 7 married.. 6 yrs ringless man!! Drinks and all

This is me also. I want peace and not walking on eggshells and not knowing if he's on period or what! Lol

I’m in the same boat as you! We had our kids birthday weekend last week, we went to a water park for two days at the great wolf lodge and he managed to have an attitude. Then it was our daughters actual birthday / our anniversary and he got an attitude too. I’m like go damn. Can I have a break?! Like I can’t enjoy my vacations anymore? Now I just wanna go with just me and my kids on vacation and leave his ass home so he can work and make that money. I did not want to spend that much money on vacation just to be miserable.

dude Forreals! That’s why they call periods MENstrual cycle and MENopause. I don’t even get that hormonal when I’m pregnant or on my period. And it’s like this with him EVERY month it seems like .

Quick questions, does all of your husbands sign are Aries? Or what sign are they?

I love my husband to death but like most men, he's just not emotionally smart. I think this is what us women have to go through that's why I think I'm just gonna be one and done with 1 kid. I can't bank on my husband improving his mental health overnight. Most men are just a handful.

I agree lol 😂

Husband is an Aries sun, good thing my moon(your emotion) is in Aries even if my sun is in pisces. It makes me feisty and not take crap.

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Am I wrong for getting upset?

Long story short. My cousin made a group chat for bridesmaids and groomsman to plan out bachelorette party.
I sent one text about finding a sitter and my cousin texts me to stop saying stuff like that cause no one gives a shit? As if no one else is gonna mention their personal lives during planning a trip of 10 people?
I. Put the screenshots. I got so hurt I told her just count me out if the mention of my kid offends everyone.

Having a bit of a sad day

I don’t know if I want advice or just to get it out a bit.
I had a bit of a rubbish Mother’s Day, and then today had a falling out with my mum.
Very long story short, me and my partner turn 30 this year and were thinking of taking a short trip (2-3 days max) just the two of us to celebrate. Our son will be 2 by then.
We had discussed leaving our son with our parents and them sort of splitting having him (eg. My mum has him one night and my boyfriend’s mum has him the other two nights, or whatever we collectively decide on). They are both happy to do this.

Yesterday my MIL was pushing my son’s pram and got distracted and pushed it off the pavement into the road, a car missed the pram by about 5 seconds. This upset me a lot.

Me and my partner discussed this later on and I said it worries me leaving our son with her in case she does something like that. We also discussed the fact that my mum pays very little attention to our son when she’s with him and is absolutely glued to her phone (looking at social media etc) so we might just take him on holiday with us.

Then this morning I had a chat with my mum and told her we would probably just take our son away with us. She asked why and I mentioned the pram thing with my MIL so she said she would just have him- so I thought it was time to mention that when she’s with him she is glued to her phone and gets distracted and that it just worries me a bit. (For reference she’s been watching him before and because she’s been on her phone he’s managed to get half way up her stairs.)
She absolutely lost it at me. Called me rude etc.

I try so hard not to upset anyone and I’m just so so fed up now. I just wish it was simple and we could trust them to take care of him but they are both away with the fairies.

I want to talk to my mum but i don’t know how to approach it now. Just feel like i need a big cry.

Married couples…who handles car maintenance in your household?

Oil changes, tune ups, tires, car washing/vacuuming, etc

Ughhh

I am so overwhelmed!! My baby isn’t sleeping and I’ve got a raging headache and all this legal stuff is making me feel irritated and I just want to cry.
I absolutely hate the idea of letting him just cry while I take 5 seconds

I really hate to come out here and tell my business about what’s going on with my life in my kids, but I had no choice

I just came back from a parent teachers conference meeting and they telling me that my second daughter, who just turned eight about a week ago that she barely know how to read and she has speech problems… I already feel like shit because it’s not that I’m doing my job. It’s because I worked a lot, and and every time, me and my first oldest daughter, trying to teach you how to read, she gets insecure and thinking that we making fun of her, but we’re not!! I felt like a shitty mother I don’t know what to do.

First Day/Night Out without Baby

So I’m due to go on a hen party next weekend just for the afternoon/night and I’m soo nervous to leave baby girl. She will be with her dad (my husband) and I know he’s more than capable but I’m so nervous to leave her. He struggles sometimes with bed time as baby girl really likes to fight her sleep so I end up doing bedtime 9 times out of 10. And I’m worried he will just let her “cry it out” for a while before he goes to pick her up and settle her. I really want to go out and have a good time. But I’m just nervous about going out anyway in general because I’m still not 100% loving my new mum body. But mostly I’m nervous about leaving baby as it will be the longest we’ve been apart 🙈