Was I wrong?

Last night I saw a boy smash up a glass bottle outside my house onto the street, other kids gave out to him telling him not to do it. I opened the window and asked him why he did that and was he gonna clean it up, he sarcasticly replied oh yeah I will. I was trying to put my baby to sleep and had to rush to do so to clean up the glass as I didn't want cars driving over it or other kids getting hurt. I was so annoyed that I posted in our housing estate Facebook page saying "the parents of the boy wearing *** should teach him so manners and common decency because smashing glass outside my house was rude" for the most part I didn't think anyone would own up as in most cases the parents never want to admit their kid is an asshole and always brushes it off. But after a while the mother came to my house with the kid and told him to apologize and she told him off and told me to not worry about him causing trouble again for a while because he is grounded for a long time. While I appreciate the mother owning up to it and making sure her son understands actions have consequences I now feel like the grumpy bitch neighbour who tells on kids 🤦‍♀️

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Why would you feel like you were in the wrong for that? The mother handled it well imo

When I was 4, I was hit in the face with glass because the teenager thought it was a good idea to smash a glass bottle on a wall near a group of children. You did the right thing. I hope he has learned not to do it again because he might hurt someone if he did

I agree the mother handled it well, but I still feel bad for the kid even though he did bring onto himself? Like if I was the kid and some lady ratted me out on Facebook I'd be mad especially if I got grounded for it... Idk I guess I really don't like confrontation which is why I feel bad

I would probably feel the same. But I do think that children/teenagers get away with too much, they need to be held accountable for their actions. Someone could have been seriously hurt, glass isn't something to be messing about with

Nah, fuck it lol. He wont learn if he doesn’t get disciplined

Thanks, I did feel like I did the right thing, but I felt bad and I guess just needed reassurance I'm not the bad buy😅

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Play dumb games, get dumb prizes. You did what you had to do and his mom handled it beautifully. Don't worry you aren't a bad person

Don't feel bad. His mother was probably really appreciative to be told as clearly that isn't how she raised him if she owned up AND made him go round to apologise.

He deserves to be taught that lesson that his actions have consequences because if he was left he'd keep thinking he can get away with antisocial behaviour with no care in the world

Just sounds like he FAFO

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She's 14 months old and I'm just tired. I've done every night by myself. He's out of bed at 4am and doesn't get home until 7-9pm. He drives for work, very physically tiring.
On the weekends he was doing 6 days, one weekend day off, but now has both off.

He doesn't sit on the floor and play with her, he doesn't read to her because he says she doesn't have the patience.
He will pick her up and hold her whilst he's cooking.

Recently I've been "snappy" with him.
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The same day I told him I was going to run her bath and to watch her whilst she was still eating, he fell asleep on the sofa.

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He got back and I was snappy.

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Since she's been born, he has been to a friend's once a month. Football - He stopped going for 7months, but has been the last two weekends.

Are these not breaks?

He does do the washing/washing up/cooking/vacuuming when I haven't had a chance to; but I'm the one in charge of feeding her, naps/bedtime, teeth brushing, hair brushing, baths, dressing her, making sure she has the right shoes, appointments etc. Everything falls on me.

If your partner works ridiculously long hours, how much do they look after your child? Do you ever get a break?

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