Weird or is it just me?

So, my MIL is at my place weekly. Typically to give me a break from LO, but they started school yesterday. Anyway, during these visits she will also help with house and yard work. She was working in the yard yesterday. Since it was hot and humid, I offered the use of the shower, since she said she had brought a change of clothes.

I got home from an appointment in the afternoon, and she was just coming out of the shower. No big deal.

UNTIL, she said that she had borrowed a pair of underwear, and a bra from me. I feel like my privacy was invaded.

We are also not the same size. My weight fluctuates lot, so I do probably have things on her size... but still.

Is it weird?

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Yeah a bit weird but I don’t think it was done maliciously. She sounds like a great MIL helping around the house & doing yard work, so I’d just forget about it if it were me.

Definitely really weird !!!

Some people think borrowing other people's clothes without asking is okay. I happen to disagree. But I know enough people who think this way to know that the MIL probably thought it was fine.

For me if someone I care for (and isn't an unsanitary person) needs "the shirt off my back" or to borrow a bra and underwear because they forgot they can either keep them or wash them. 🤷‍♀️

I would day something if it happens again, or just buy her undergarments she can keep at my house?

Weird for sure but... not unforgivable

Yeah, no. Borrowing used undergarments is gross. I don't care if they've been washed.

I'm not saying it's a detriment to your relationship or anything. She sounds like a great MIL, but I would definitely be flabbergasted and questioning her hygiene at this point. And the fact she went through my drawers would make my skin crawl.

I don't care if I forgot my underwear at home. Guess what, I wouldn't be wearing any then.

Let her keep it and offer her to bring some items to keep in your house in the future in case she needs to shower again. She sounds amazing and probably just views you as family and didn’t think anything of it. I wouldn’t want them back personally, but I wouldn’t say anything of it as I wouldn’t want her to then feel any type of way.

Hmm weird to me. I would find another place for your underwear. Better yet maybe give her a drawer or somewhere in the house to keep a complete change of clothes so she doesn't do that again LOL maybe tell her she could keep the set she picked.

I can’t imagine borrowing someone’s things rather than going commando and high-tailing it home! So so weird

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