Advices please?. Mommy of 2

Feeding my newborn baby & been crying thinking of my toddler; all the memories of just us two! I don’t even know how to call what I’m feeling right now but I’m super emotional right now. I hope he neverrr feels neglected by me caring for his baby Sister. I miss the bound we had.. haven’t even been able to homeschool or really play with him since I’ve given birth couple days ago. Is this part of post partum? Any advices please?

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I feel this! I had a c section nearly 2 weeks ago and the first 4 days for me were hell I was in so much pain and couldn't even cuddle my eldest I just sobbed and sobbed she's only 19 months old but I promise it gets better we are now going on days out trying to give her as much attention as possible🤞🩷

I have a 2 year old and a one week old. I am trying to find ways to interact and pitch in for husband on the toddlers care. I am doing mealtimes, and bedtimes (once husband lifts him into his crib). Mommy can't play with him physically or pick him up but I can comfort, talk to, sing to, and feed him. so far so good, but he's still very emotional and his behavior gets bad after ive been away too long.

I've also created our living room space so we can all hang out together. Infant naps in portable bassinet and I feed there while we all hang out as a family.

This won't be forever. Be kind to yourself, do what you can. Think also the new baby will never get 100% of you like the older one did...that's what I tell myself anyway!

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Am I wrong for getting upset?

Long story short. My cousin made a group chat for bridesmaids and groomsman to plan out bachelorette party.
I sent one text about finding a sitter and my cousin texts me to stop saying stuff like that cause no one gives a shit? As if no one else is gonna mention their personal lives during planning a trip of 10 people?
I. Put the screenshots. I got so hurt I told her just count me out if the mention of my kid offends everyone.

Having a bit of a sad day

I don’t know if I want advice or just to get it out a bit.
I had a bit of a rubbish Mother’s Day, and then today had a falling out with my mum.
Very long story short, me and my partner turn 30 this year and were thinking of taking a short trip (2-3 days max) just the two of us to celebrate. Our son will be 2 by then.
We had discussed leaving our son with our parents and them sort of splitting having him (eg. My mum has him one night and my boyfriend’s mum has him the other two nights, or whatever we collectively decide on). They are both happy to do this.

Yesterday my MIL was pushing my son’s pram and got distracted and pushed it off the pavement into the road, a car missed the pram by about 5 seconds. This upset me a lot.

Me and my partner discussed this later on and I said it worries me leaving our son with her in case she does something like that. We also discussed the fact that my mum pays very little attention to our son when she’s with him and is absolutely glued to her phone (looking at social media etc) so we might just take him on holiday with us.

Then this morning I had a chat with my mum and told her we would probably just take our son away with us. She asked why and I mentioned the pram thing with my MIL so she said she would just have him- so I thought it was time to mention that when she’s with him she is glued to her phone and gets distracted and that it just worries me a bit. (For reference she’s been watching him before and because she’s been on her phone he’s managed to get half way up her stairs.)
She absolutely lost it at me. Called me rude etc.

I try so hard not to upset anyone and I’m just so so fed up now. I just wish it was simple and we could trust them to take care of him but they are both away with the fairies.

I want to talk to my mum but i don’t know how to approach it now. Just feel like i need a big cry.

Water

My LO is 10 months old and I try and offer him water with meals but he will only take a couple of sips. I’ve tried adding freshly made apple juice to sweeten it a bit, in case this would entice him, but he still refused. I think if it’s not milk, he doesn’t want it, or it’s odd to him.

Any tips?

Married couples…who handles car maintenance in your household?

Oil changes, tune ups, tires, car washing/vacuuming, etc

Ughhh

I am so overwhelmed!! My baby isn’t sleeping and I’ve got a raging headache and all this legal stuff is making me feel irritated and I just want to cry.
I absolutely hate the idea of letting him just cry while I take 5 seconds

I really hate to come out here and tell my business about what’s going on with my life in my kids, but I had no choice

I just came back from a parent teachers conference meeting and they telling me that my second daughter, who just turned eight about a week ago that she barely know how to read and she has speech problems… I already feel like shit because it’s not that I’m doing my job. It’s because I worked a lot, and and every time, me and my first oldest daughter, trying to teach you how to read, she gets insecure and thinking that we making fun of her, but we’re not!! I felt like a shitty mother I don’t know what to do.