Confused...

Sounds like he’s looking for any excuse to cheat and deff gas lighting you. Which is beyond shitty from him since you’re also pregnant. I would deff peep his phone

He’s a narcissist and is trying to switch it up on you. You have no clue how many people he’s actually been with because he says it doesn’t make it automatically true. Who you were before him has nothing to do with how he’s acting with you. If he wants to be free cut him loose because he’s going to cheat if he wants to no matter if he had been the only one you’ve been with.

Wow that’s crazy. He wants you to feel as horrible as he feels about what he did. Basically now you are “equal” . That’s sick . Your previous life has nothing to do with him

If he feels a certain way about it, that's his problem to get over. I don't like thinking about people my husband was with before me.... so I don't think about it.

What’s before him should go over his head, he’s obviously gaslighting and attempting this whole victim card now 🥴 he just wants a one up because he’s probably feeling guilt. Regardless he’s looking for excuses as to why you’re worse than him. I’d watch out for that as he may attempt to use that in the future for any other shitty behaviour.

So the only person I ever slept with was my husband, he’s slept with a couple more people than me and I know that sometimes I get in my head about it and feel kinda bad that he has looked at somebody else in that way before BUT that’s history and also something that really shouldn’t even be an issue because it was before he even knew me. There is no way he should be able to compare your body count to him cheating it’s nowhere near the same thing. One happened when the other person wasn’t in the picture and the other is blatant disrespect and disloyalty to someone you’re currently with. So it’s ridiculous for him to try to compare the two or make you feel bad about it

One thing my mom thought me after going through something similar to you . Is never talk about that to your significant other . Doesn’t mean lie about it but is your past and is yours to keep . If you don’t want to talk about it don’t . But you already did 😭
And yea he’s definitely a narcissist.
Like a normal person would get over it .
But a narcissist oh God their the worst at being up your past and make you feel horrible for being honest.
They’ll make you question if you are wrong or right. Don’t let it bother you . But a narcissist will do this a freaking nightmare. Good luck . And hope you run before he gets worse

he would never get over it because he’s a narcissist. But a normal person would get over it. I feel so bad for her 🥺

I would leave imo. Pregnant and all. He sucks.

Warning ⚠️ a narcissist person would make you question your existence. I been there .

The feeling is truly NOT the same. I've been with very few people prior to the father, yet the father has had a VERY active bedroom life with and without dating others prior to me and it does feel a little weird if I'm completely honest. But it isn't the same at all. He's really a huge idiot for even comparing them but maybe he couldn't articulate his words correctly. Maybe he means it feels similar in like terms of disappointment which still ain't right because you did all this before even knowing the man existed but he's valid in feeling emotions just not valid in blaming you like this.

Also on my end it was the father who cheated (not physically) which is why I felt really uncomfortable with it all.

I would explore individual therapy to help for starters. We’re going through a lot of emotional and physical changes right now, and simply cannot be in charge of what others are thinking or how they’re going to behave. A therapist would also help you see any gaslighting, narcissism, and how to deal with it if you plan on staying with him. These tools may even rub off on him and encourage him to grow and seek help too. I have a lot of narcissism in my family and in turn deal with chronic anxiety and depression. Therapy helped greatly, but being pregnant I think it’s time to go back. My fiancé is great, but cannot relate to my pre-existing mental health, let alone the changes I’m going through right now!

Girl how does he know the #?? Don't let them know.. none of his biz, it's the past. You are different person now!!!

Dangerous, toxic, gaslighting narcissist. Sorry girl - he’s probably cheating / going to cheat. Been where you are - regretted staying x

You cannot compare these two scenarios. What you did before y'all were together is (for the most part) irrelevant. What he does while you guys are committed to each other is 100% relevant. Sounds like he is gas lighting you a bit...

Maybe he’s feeling insecure would be my guess… give him support, let him know even though you’ve slept with more people than him, he’s the best lover out of all of them 😘😘 etc… I think he’s comparing the two because he’s got nothing else to throw down 🤷‍♀️ the two situations are not comparable though IMO.

What do you mean cheated not physically?