Not feeling attracted to boyfriend

I’m 3 months pp and breastfeeding, is it normal to feel completely disgusted by my partner? Have I lost feelings for him? Or is this just a phase and hormonal? I hate feeling like this.. it’s scaring me bc I feel like not even in love anymore 😩 and I keep thinking about my ex husband. Idk why, bc I didn’t really before. Help!

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In my experience this is a phase and it should pass. Give yourself time and grace. Maybe start setting up dates for you two. It doesn’t have to be anything to stressful. Maybe just order in dinner and talk or watch a movie and cuddle.

Yup especially as being EBF. You're getting touched out and your hormones are telling your body to focus on your baby rather than a partner. Its why when you do try to have sex you'll be more dry as your body doesn't want to make another baby while still caring for this one. It'll pass but a baby does crazy things to our bodies even after birth ♥️

This happened to me as well!! It turned out to be hormones & I got on some medicine & am in love now more than ever 🤍🤍 I hope you feel better soon!

were you thinking about an ex as well? Or just not feeling in love?

I had found my mind wandering to the past quite a bit! That has also stopped.
Definitely not feeling in love, I basically despised him & for no good reason! It was crazy & hard to deal with for everyone. I am now 4 months pp & like I said before, getting on meds has helped me so so much.

thank you for sharing, I really appreciate it and has helped me feel much better!

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