To dummy or not to dummy?

What's everyone's opinion on dummies? I personally haven't found the need for one as my little one (8 weeks old) only cries when he wants something ie diaper change, feed, etc. My MIL is insisting that if we leave him with her to bring a dummy but I don't think he needs it. Should I stick with my gut and not get one?

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Yeah don't get one if they don't need it. My little girl never took to one so we ended up throwing them away xx

It's not her baby to dictate so don't get her a dummy. She just wants to use it as a "shut up" tool and not provide the care the baby needs in the moment it seems. We use one and love it for getting teething gel in and to stop him chomping in his fingers as he doesn't like teethers yet but that's all we use it for he doesn't get it at night to go to sleep etc

If they don’t need it, then don’t start. Maybe all her kids needed one so she sees it as a necessity.

We used one but she weaned herself off it if by 6 months. I would stick it in when she was comfort nursing for another like 30 minutes after falling asleep so I knew she wanted to suck and not drink and my poor boobs were getting raw.

Some babies need them, some don’t. Mine didn’t and she’s completely fine.

I was happy to give one and tried it but I’m relieved she didn’t like it as I didn’t want to be up every time it fell out in the night

I really wanted my son to take a dummy as a comfort (I thought maybe he’d be easier to settle/put to sleep if he liked it) also the research that they can help prevent sids but I left it 2 months for my supply to establish and then my son was having none of it 🤣 I think you’re right that there’s no point if he only cries when he needs something!

The nicu nurses gave our daughter one and we didn't want her having one but I am kinda thankful they did because she likes to use me as her paci and my nips get so sore but honestly if your babe doesn't need it then no point in starting it now. 💕

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