circumcision

are we circumcising our boys? or leaving that to dad?

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Second day in the hospital and it was done

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Personally left it to dad. So we didn’t do it. I wasn’t too sure if I was for it or against it. My kiddo is 6 now and I feel as though everything has been good god willing.

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My 3 week old has his appointment on Monday. I’m so nervous 🥺

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I told dad it was his choice as hes a guy. He decided to have it done

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Nope. Kids can die from it. Why take the risk.

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I didn’t have my babies done. Dad didn’t have it done and he wanted to keep baby intact as well.

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We also just left it as is. I couldn’t deal with him having it done 😩

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girl what 💀

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I didn’t it’s not a necessary surgery and there isn’t enough pros in my opinion plus it’s not common in other countries but it’s up to you. I also couldn’t stand the thought of him feeling unnecessary pain even if he won’t remember.

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Absolutely not for me, but it’s whatever parents choose at the end of the day. I genuinely think it’s extremely inhumane and unfair to put a baby through, I recommend everyone to watch a circumcising video on youtube if they really want it done for their child so that they understand the risks and exactly what the baby goes through. The benefits are not worth the potential risks involved and I find it weird that people care so much about the looks over the health, keep it clean and nothing is wrong with it.

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My partner and I decided together for our kiddo. Both our opinions matter as we are both his parents.

It's our kiddos body and ultimately his choice. There are no significant reasons to do it so why would you?

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nope and i’m glad his dad isn’t so i won’t have to argue whether or not to mutilate my baby’s genitals

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No. Not even leaving it up to dad. Just leaving it be

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Im leaving it to my son as its his body. Not to anyone else. So no im not getting rid of something they're biologically meant to have. Im leaving what belongs to him.😊

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Leave it to him not dad

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No no no!! Cruel and extremely painful!! Should be illegal before they can make that decision themselves tbh.

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I would only do it if it was medically necessary. We didn’t plan to but my son was born with a mild deformity and the repair failed so the only option was to circumcise at 3 years old.

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We wanted to circumcise our son for the benefits of decreased risk of infections and diseases, etc but can’t do it until 9 months old because of a torsion in his penis

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I am leaving it to my son! My son’s dad tried to pressure me to get it done but I protested. I’m sure glad that I did because he ended up leaving us anyways! I believe that the only person capable of making such a decision is the person who will be directly affected.

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We believe that circumcision is a matter of bodily autonomy and not our choice to make. Once its gone you can't put it back.

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Both my boys are not circumcised. Honestly never had issues

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Ew no, unless for a medical reason, it’s mutilation, abuse 🤮

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All my 3 boys are circumcised, if you plan to my only advice would be to do it earlier than later. I did my last boy at almost 3 months and I think that’s late. The dr said from 1-2 weeks is best, heals quicker, less pain and the baby is less aware xx

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Nope. I didn’t do it with my first boy and I’m not doing it with this one. I already told my husband no. Only because it’s not medically necessary

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Nope hes still intact, did ask dad for his opinion as you know hes a man and has the same tool 😂 and dad wanted him intact too

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Even if you’re planning, do it asap. Because they don’t feel the pain their pain receptors are not strong and they recover within a week I got my baby’s done when he was 3 weeks old that’s what his surgeon recommended. Healed in a week. Didn’t feel anything

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Honestly i circumcised my son and i dont regret it . He had many infections before that and now he has next to none we also did it religiously as well

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Yes. Waited for my son to turn one before doing it.

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No.

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We didn't circumcise our little one (not really a choice in the uk unless medically needed) my partner was when he was born and its caused issues with certain things making my partner struggle with feelings about himself

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My bf and I both agreed to get it done to avoid any issues in the future. My bf brother was the only one who wasn’t and had to get it don’t at 14 bc it almost closed up and he couldn’t use the washroom and we didn’t wanna risk anything like that for our son

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Hell no. And why are we leaving it to dad? He's either circumcised or he isn't so he also doesn't know any different to you 🤣 unless he was done later for some reason... hard pass unless it's deemed medically necessary.

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I did with my son 13 years ago day 2 he was born. His father is circumcised and we didn’t want him to feel different when it came to potty training or if he saw his dads one day and wondered why his looked different. Me personally, I did it because I would’ve had to be taught how to clean the extra skin. Ita also been very rare instances in my life where I seen one not circumcised. (My husband isn’t but we have a girl now so that doesn’t matter). I didn’t want to risk my son growing up and not cleaning it properly and getting some infection. It’s honestly just easier to manage after it’s done and you won’t have to worry about later on pulling skin back to clean under it. My son is happy we did it. It’s his favorite body part. 13 years no complications. I say go for it. But it’s initially up to you

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Yes!

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Just a personal experience but yes we did and it was very traumatizing for me. I’d recommend looking up what it looks like prior if you are planning on it. I cried and cried after we had it done because I felt so guilty for how it looked. 🥺 if I have another child and it’s a boy idk if I’ll be able to do it again.

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I had planned on getting my boys circumcised but their dad, who is circumcised, said no bc boys need that extra layer of skin. All 3 of my boys are uncircumcised.

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If I were to have another boy, absolutely not! Dad doesn’t get a say either. The answer is ✨ no ✨

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yes, we did. with zero
complications and little to
no tears from my baby. my husband is and so are all the boys in both our families. it wasnt even a question of us getting it done. thanks kaizer! lol

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Got my son circumcised. Surprisingly fast healing no complications

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We did not circumcise. Our son recently turned 1, and I don’t regret the decision to not.

I always find it weird when people use the excuse that other males they are related to are circumcised so their son should be too. Outside of cultural practices, it’s really not offering much benefit. It’s not like people are constantly looking at each other’s genitalia to compare. If they are, especially adults to children, then you may need to re-evaluate the company you keep.

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In Brazil no one gets circumcised, and We don’t hear about anyone getting problems. All the man of my family is not circumcised. My boy was born in the USA and I did not do his. Now he is 3 and everything okay easy to clean, not pain nothing.

Usually man that is not circumcised experience they first time having sex almost like us. Cause it is when the skin tear completely and them then the gain full acess hahahha

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My son was circumcised the day after he was born. It was my decision and his dad agreed.

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We got our son circumcised 2nd day born. Dad and i agreed cuz hes circumsized. If you wait itll be more painful id think cuz its more foreskin than as a newborn

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We did not circumcise, but it wasn't "left to dad", we made that joint decision after researching the pros and cons of both options. My husband didn't magically know the best choice just because he has a penis.

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We didn’t. We made that decision together though.

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I let my husband decide on that. We didn't. My little guy is 15 months now, his urologist is recommending to do it now because he's had 1 uti and repeat epididymitis. He said 10% of men end up needing to circumcise for health reasons. Surprisingly, dad wants to do it right away, and I'm not on board yet. My oldest son is 20. I don't remember why I decided to circumcise him. But he had a penile infection at some point, too. I think good hygiene is the key either way.

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Me and my husband both agreed to have our son circumcised. He had it on his third day in the hospital no complications. He healed very well and had no complications and it was very easy to take care of.

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Nope 🙅🏽‍♀️

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No we didn’t. And we agreed. There’s no point

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Posting as incognito as I don’t want to feel judged! I’ve tried getting hold of my health visitor but she never answers the phone.

My little boy is 13 weeks old and is breast fed, he won’t take to dummies or anything like that.

Since around maybe 11 weeks he has point blank refused to sleep in his next to me (he’s not been too much of a fan sleeping by himself in his own bed since birth but would sleep in there for a good 5 hours) at night time so for 2 weeks I’ve only been able to get him to sleep in bed next to me on the boob, now he also has not been able to sleep without boob in his mouth and if I move an inch or even go for a wee he kicks off immediately (he just wants to be on my boob throughout the whole night) nothing myself or my partner has tried has worked, I’ve tried pumping and giving him a bottle before bed but that made everything 10x worse to the point he refused to sleep for 4 hours. I’ve even tried leaving the room so my partner can try patting him off/ cuddling him but my boy screams to the top of his lungs until I come back and then he’s fine. He also sleeps absolutely fine during his naps too with the occasional fighting his nap time.

He’s had a sleep regression at 12 weeks and is now out of that sleep regression and is also teething but I just genuinely don’t understand why he’s is like this now! I honestly feel like a prisoner in/ tied down to my own bed at night and I’m also starting to dread bed time as I’m not getting a full nights sleep from where he’s stirring looking for my boob constantly/ looking to make sure I’m still there and where my body won’t let me be in a deep sleep where he’s sleeping next to me.

It’s genuinely getting to the point where I’m feeling down and emotional all the time and where I’m not sleeping properly I’m a lot more snappy with my partner/ others than usual.

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So we are moving

So my husband and I are moving from an 3 bedroom 1 &1/2 bath apartment to a 5 bedroom 1bath house.
Well there is 3 bedrooms upstairs and 2 bedrooms down stairs with 1 bathroom. The house is kinda small. We have to cool with window units and heat by gas but the upstairs doesn’t have a heat source I have 2 boys and 2 girls this house would give them their own rooms but my husband is so negative. He wants them sharing rooms. But yet I’m home 24/7 with the kids he works night shift and I feel like I don’t get a say.

Also I want to get rid of my daughter’s bunk bed and get them separate beds and he doesn’t want to do that.

We are currently in our 3 bed and my kids are all in separate rooms. My youngest is in our bed my oldest daughter is in her bed and my boys are separated ones in their room the other is in the living room.

My kids are ages 9,8,7,5 I feel like my boys need their own room my daughters need to be separated also they fight constantly

Am I in the wrong for being upset

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Swaddling??

Just curious, who all swaddles their babies and if so why or why not?
Me and my partner don't we never have and honestly think our LO hates being restricted anyway!😆

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Sex postpartum

I’m only 2 weeks postpartum and all I want is my man! It’s actually awful having to wait so long! He doesn’t want to take any risks either even though the NHS advice these days is “whenever you feel ready” but he’s struggling to wait for 6 weeks too.
We’re gonna wait because it’s the safest thing to do but damn, it feels longer than the wait for the baby to be born 😩😂

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Partner

Does anyone else not feel as attracted to their partner after birth, I’m 10 weeks PP, I love my husband very much but everything he does bothers me, I don’t want him to touch me, not ready to be intimate of course but like I just feel were co-existing together. Please tell me the feeling comes back, I don’t want to feel like this forever.

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Witching Hour

Anyone else experiencing witching hour and how are you coping? What works for you and your baby?

Our little one is 2 weeks old and mostly an angel in the daytime and even happily sleeps in his own cot or moses basket.
But in the evening, either around 7pm or in the middle of the night he absolutely kicks off for a few hours and the only thing that calms him is to be on the boob with white noise on and dimmed lights and just me and him in a room.
Nothing else helps, he hates being swaddled and movement makes him even more frantic. An extra bottle doesn’t help either and he is definitely getting enough milk based on his nappies, feeding habits and weight gain…
I keep seeing ‘if your newborn fusses, try this simple thing’ type videos on Instagram of how to hold them but he isn’t having any of that 🥲

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