Help please

My one year old doesn’t eat lumpy food or solids he still takes puréed food with some texture…. If a lump even small gets into his mouth he would gag or vomit everything….
He’s also a fussy eater.. only wants breastmilk all the time
This is so frustrating…. I have tried everything!
He won’t eat with his hands would only play with food and throw it ….
Other wise he’s very good at picking up smallest things … always chews his fingers …

I don’t know what I’m doing wrong 😑?
Any advice?
Our gp said give him what he likes !

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Hey! I'd ask the doctor if he chokes a lot on food and won't bring food to mouth. As they'd told me that's a red flag. My babe has some developmental delays and he has a condition, so they've asked me for this kind of things to check for other delays, conditions etc

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As hard as it is right now just arm yourself in patience and keep on trying. Look up baby lead weaning for ideas on best food to start with that have texture. We went through probably 2.5 months of gagging and throwing up when we started solids at 6 months. But eventually he learned and got over it. They have to learn how to eat especially if all they had was purées. Playing with food is also normal, that is how they learn.

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I'm in the same boat .
My baby doesn't gag tho. He just won't eat it. Squishes and throws in down is as far as we get. He doesn't even like purees. Just yogurt, baby cereal and oatmeal ..
What am I doing wrong , idk. I try all the baby led weaning ideas. I've been giving puree since 4 months . . I try with solid food every single day at least 2 meals . Not much luck .

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My son also likes baby cereals … I add fruits and blend for more nutrients..
My concern is that he only takes blended foods

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I would ask for a referral to whatever early intervention options exist in Ontario. Best case, it's really just a preference that he will outgrow and the referral was unnecessary. Worst case: he has a physical condition preventing him from processing texture in his mouth (even oral ties can do this) and they will help. GPs are notorious for not referring, so you might have to push for it. In BC, if our doctor wouldn't refer, I would go to the public health nurses and they almost certainly would - is there something similar.in ON?

My guy is still not super keen on solid foods and prefers milk still but absolutely can eat whole foods - we worked with feeding and swallowing specialists a lot around 7-10 months to support him doing it though.

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Does he have a tongue tie? Sometimes that can make it difficult to eat. Maybe see a pediatric dentist or lactation consultant to check it out. A lot of doctors / pediatricians under diagnose it. But it can cause eating problems and speech delays.

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