Terrible 2s

Please tell me I’m not crazy my daughter yesterday and today has been having some very awful meltdowns , she doesn’t do this all the time and it’s been months since she has actually banged her head on the floor or hits herself and or bites me out of frustration but when it does happen my mother says I better talk to someone about her behavior. Hearing that everytime from my mom is extremely frustrating for myself she makes me feel like something is wrong with my daughter . I know it’s not her intentions , but she acts like my daughter does this all the time . Honestly I think it’s when my daughter is getting teeth (2nd molars ) and her sleep hasn’t been the best the last two days so I think that’s what causing her to have these awful meltdowns . She is also very advanced for an almost 2 yr old . I don’t know just looking for some advice how to handle this all I’m a single mom and we live with my parents and my mom is really hard to deal with . 90% of the time my daughter is really an angel especially for my parents but she has a very bad temper but everything I read says this is all normal for this age as long as it doesn’t continue when she is 3/4 and happen all the time .

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thank you for that ! My mom makes me feel so awful about it . I’m like ok my daughter she is intense when she is mad and isn’t a calm little toddler like some are but there isn’t anything wrong with her .. now if this goes on for years and it doesn’t stop then ok i will obviously look into it more and maybe there is more to it but right now she is only almost 2 and she doesn’t even do it all the time , yesterday and today appears it was just lack of sleep bc she fell asleep 30 mins earlier then normal . Woke up at 6:30 later then usual but woke up twice in the night and still went to sleep this morning at 10:55

thank you , yes to me it’s not concerning if this was an all day every day type of thing then maybe I would be more concerned. I hate to see my daughter get so frustrated that she hurts herself out of frustration I try to make sure she doesn’t actually hurt herself , but again its not consistently happening . I would 100% seek help if she needed it , and I am still going to talk to my doctor about it to get his take how to handle it best with her . She is an intense child she always has been but she has also been very good , she is fairly advanced talks all day has full on conversations, counts to 20 knows all her colors , been going on the potty since 17 months . She just had a temper and gets really mad at herself when she can’t do something or doesn’t get to do what she wants to do typical toddler but just intense .

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I said - Probably because I haven't had a break since December.

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Since she's been born, he has been to a friend's once a month. Football - He stopped going for 7months, but has been the last two weekends.

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