Hi all,
I’m currently 19 weeks pregnant with my first child and it’s a little girl. My husband and I couldn’t be more excited as we had 2 losses prior. My mother in law has serious issues with boundaries and acts like a total victim if anyone calls her out. Anyways, I could go on and on.
On Monday we were having dinner at their house and we were talking about how many kids we wanted (because they asked). Which I answered that we’d love to have 2 if possible. My MIL then proceeds to tell me, in front of 6 other people, that if we want a boy that my husband and I should have deep penetrative sex around the time of ovulation. My jaw hit the damn floor. It was so uncomfortable. I looked at her and said there’s no science to that and couldn’t even look at her for the rest of the visit. My husband either. There’s this glorification of boys with my MIL and I freaking hate it. All children are special and deserve to be celebrated and loved.
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yuck 🤢

Sorry she said that at dinner? I would have thrown my plate at her face. That is not dinner time conversation and it's certainly not a conversation to be had with a mil

as we were getting our plates together yes. In front of me, her two sons, her 3 year old grandson and her husband. She’s something else

Man I wish you had called her out of how inappropriate that was, but good on you for calling out the fact that it isn’t scientifically backed.

Wooooow. 🤯I’m glad you said something, but like mentioned, I definitely would’ve called out just how weird and inappropriate the comment was. Hopefully she never says anything like that again. 😳

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to be honest I was completely stunned. Historically she always says inappropriate things so this was just another instance. If she does it again I will definitely ask her to stop but she won’t.

she will whether I said something or not. She doesn’t respect anything anyone asks of her

yea my mother in law is a unique case. She doesn’t listen or respect boundaries unless you actually raise your voice at her….which I won’t do but my husband has in the past and continues to do so when it’s needed. She has a terrible relationship with her kids because she doesn’t know how to let them be adults. They just say she’s being a “mom” but I’m like no she isn’t lol

lolololol

RIGHT. How would she have liked it if I told her that I rode her son like a carnival ride everyday for a week to get pregnant lol

Ugh I’m so sorry. That’s disgusting that she can speak about her son to you like that. 🤢 She needs serious boundaries. (But like you said, she probably wouldn’t follow them) 🙈 If anything, it makes her look bad. I’m sure everyone there judged her for her comment!

they all just excuse her behavior. My sister in law and I talk about how insane she is all the time. My sister in law will repeatedly tell her things and text her about certain things and it took our MIL 5 years to acknowledge that they had boundaries. My sister in law was like I’ve basically been talking to a brick wall for 5 years. Its a lot more complicated than just setting boundaries at this point…I wish it were different

That’s as hilarious as it is inappropriate. I would have said something like “oh right, so the Y chromosome is only passed on through deep penetration?! Right got it thanks” 🤣🤣 mental 🤣

Wow! No words 🙈

I'm sure that would defo work!!

haha I'm sorry I did laugh 🙈 is she often like that? was it a joke or was she being genuinely serious!? 🤣 that's definitely grim to be talking about over dinner though 😬🤣

true, she probably won’t. But if you call her out on it in front of other people, she may think twice moving forward.

“I’ll make sure to tell your baby boy we need to incorporate more doggy style in our night time sex routine. Thanks MIL!” 😂

if she were a normal person I’d say yes this is a great plan but she’s like immune to being embarrassed. It’s insane

she was 100% serious. She’s one of those moms that will come to our house to walk the dog and like take it upon herself to remove things from our house to wash without telling us. And it’s not like she’s bringing it back the next day, she often waits until we see her next so my husband can be without some clothes for a few days…she oversteps in every way possible. We once hosted them and my parents and instead of socializing with my parents she went into our dryer and folder all my underwear that were in there.

@Stephanie noooo way!!! not sure what it is with MILs and laundry but they know damn well what they're doing overstepping there 😤 let me guess, she tells you that you're washing/hanging it out wrong 🙃

I would never speak to her again. Idk why people are so set that you need a boy to be fulfilled in having kids or having one of each gender. I mean I have a boy and a girl but I’m lucky to have them regardless because I had 3 losses after my son, and I didn’t even care what I was having when I found out I was pregnant again. But like the stigma of it man 😅🤮

I feel that. I do want a boy because my brother and I are very close and I want that for my baby girl, but if we have another girl, she will still be loved the same. (My sister and I have never been close even though we’re closer in age than my brother and I)

yeah it took a long time for my sister and I to be close. Not until we were older- and I don’t have any brothers. But my sister and I are 5 years apart so it was hard to kinda connect lol. But I get it. I just want healthy babies. My miscarriages really messed me up and just made me super grateful that I was able to at least get the two I have

my sister and I are three years apart and my brother and I are five years apart. I’m the oldest.
And yeah, I’ve had at least one loss so I’m forever hugging my baby when she reaches for me.

no she said that “she’s just being helpful”….everything is masked behind her “intention”

“the way to hell is paved with good intentions. Keep it up and you’ll get there sooner than expected.” 😂

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Hahaha that’s wacky 😂 I guess I am immune to this comments as I also frequently get them myself.