Am i wrong?

So my partner has a business a takeaway and he earns alot of money but we are thinking about buying a new car as our old one was written off and we are applying for a mortgage for the house. He said he wants to stop our daughter from going to nursery as its too expensive which it is expensive but im pregnant he doesnt help with anything when she goes to nursery its my time to clean and have a relaxing shower… not only this but i have no family or friends so she never sees anyone else. Im annoyed because his son is 8 and gets anything he wants roughly about £20 everyday only on games which amounts up to the same amount as nursery costs but he wont cut down on money for the games? He doesnt need it as its only roblox he doesnt buy any other game he has a ps5 wii switch a robot that cost £600 that he only used once. Now my partner has hired his baby mums son(his ex step son) to work for him and lets him leave whenever he wants and pays him more then anyone else for even the time he isnt there. It feels like our daughter isnt a priority hes not even cutting down money anywhere else he goes straight to our daughter who loves nursery am i over reacting if im annoyed and upset?

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I’d be fuming!!! Sorry but if it was something similar for his son and he was cutting back on both to save money I’d understand where he was coming from

But an 8 year old does not need to be spending £20 on games everyday, in my opinion nursery is definitely more important, more so as it’s your only break plus it’s something that benefits your little one xx

this was my point his son is the definition of spoiled ontop of the £20 a day when he stays the weekend he can sometimes get an extra £60 a day because he begs for it. Like i said i know kids like games but why should my daughter have to suffer but his son doesnt aswell? Let me also add he has abouf £1200 in his savings which my partner only started a month before our daughter was born but hasnt given me any money to put in her savings account or put the money in himself. I know its hard for him but i just think it should be cut everywhere not just hers and when i say anything he says he doesnt give him money but ive seen it when he comes round and the gift card he sends a picture to him on his phone he doesnt see how nursery benefits me he says he will take her out but he doesnt use the car sear for our daughter or his son and im so sick im struggling to move out the house i simply dont trust him to look after her. When hes alone yes but when his son is around its different

3 seperate occasions ive come home to him his son and our daughter and my daughter has been in a full poo explosion! He says he didnt know why she was moaning one of the times she was over tired and another hungry🙁

that’s so wrong!!! I’d be telling him to stop all the extras for his son , maybe a treat once a month or so is reasonable if he wants to but what he’s doing is excessive and at the end of the day he’s making it worse for himself as his son gets older it’s going to be more money expected.

Also you need a break, we all do and nursery massively benefitted my son!

The fact he’s not saving for both kids would really bother me xx

Aside from the £20 a day on games his son must be spending an awful lot of time on games which isn’t great for him in the long run. Nursery is really good for your daughter’s development as well as giving you some time to get on with things.

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