Emotional punch bag

My husband said I use him as an emotional punch bag, that I'm negative and that he can't deal with me crying 'hysterically'. He moved out last week because of these. He's back now.

What is an emotional punch bag? I'm only negative and open up to him because he's my best friend and I put a brave face on to everyone else some days. It's not like it's constant. All the child care is on me. He works and works away each week for a couple of days. He doesn't do anything in the nights. I'm tired and lonely. I've cried 'hysterically' a few times, when my son was born, I was really struggling with hormones and breast-feeding and a couple of times in the night when I've been trying to get the baby to sleep for 5ish hours with no help. But I cry for max a few mins and then carry on.

I really needed my mum through all of it but she had a heart attack a week after my baby was born and he's my first. My grandad died yesterday and I have to pretend I'm ok. My husband hasn't even hugged me or anything this morning, just came over to kiss the baby 💔

I think it feels more lonely being with him.

How do I carry on here?

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I don't know your full relationship, but it sounds a little bit like he's gas lighting you.

You should be able to be vulnerable with your partner - be sad and angry. As long as you're not taking it out on them (shouting at them, name calling, blame game etc) and you're just confiding in them.

It sounds like he just doesn't want to deal with your emotions. I'd sit down and try and discuss how you feel with him and go from there

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Sounds like he’s the problem I’m so sorry you’ve had such a hard time and feel you have no one to talk to you should definitely be able to vent your feelings to your partner and you shouldn’t be doing all the child care anyway he should be helping where he can he can’t say you’re the problem and not be looking after his own kid

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