Hate being put in this position

So with my messed up situation myself my Partner told me something about his mate and will be facing his partner on the weekend for a party. This already going to be difficult as I have told him his mate needs to tell her..She is really nice and has said she wanted me at this party but feel awkward knowing what I know.

Then I am close to my partner sister in law and we both in similar situations. Today again something came up here nothing bad like his mates situation nothing big but been told don't say anything to her..

I am just like men but know my situation these women probably having to do the same with me.

Just why are men like this because I wish I didn't know anything.

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Aww hun it’s horrible being put in that situation, maybe talk to the person themselves and tell them that you know and he needs to say something or unfortunately you will have to.

think best to stay of it because they probably know stuff about my partner but saying that don't think my sis in law does but can understand her position do.

My sis in law been confiding in me a lot.

What my partner doesn't know about his own brother situation is things are not great.

True, I think it’s just men gossiping lol 😂 sometimes I swear they are worse then us…

I feel for my guy's mate's gf tbh. It's really bad what he hiding from her. I just hope she doesn't ever ask me if I knew. Although I tried to say to my guy his mate needs to tell her.

With my guys sis in law not sure if this dodgy or not to why I been told keep quiet.

Again I do hope she don't ask me anything.

These men honestly and my own madness am like enough is enough.

I am not saying nothing it's not my place he needs to sit her down be man tell her.

@Jenna I'm over it now but at the time was like thinking seriously been told twice now to keep quiet about things I wish I didn't know.

I just going to leave it as its not my place to say anything and would hate if I had to lie to them.

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