Working full time

For those of you working full time right now, how are you coping?

It's been harder and harder for me to have the will to go to work (even though it's a good distraction) and it's so hard to prepare myself for birth (nursery, etc) with my terrible work life balance 🫠

Whats been helping you get by at work?

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I can completely relate. Work is getting so complicated on so many levels: waking up, being tired, stress of dealing with deadlines, projects, co-workers. I feel super emotional and not motivated AT ALL. And I feel it drains all my energy... I try to write things down so that I don't forget and get some clarity. The ideal would be to delegate as much as possible but not always that's doable. I'm trying to focus on one thing at the time, using some relaxation music when I do mundane tasks and most of all, let go a lot more. I used to fight people a lot more, now I'm energy saving mode. If it's not ESSENTIAL, it goes. And I've always been a type A, overachiever... this baby is definitely changing me already!!!

Work has been SO hard for me. Back hurts, legs/feet are super swollen even with compression socks, the fatigue is next level. I work like 45-60 minutes from my house. The hard part is, my entire job could be remote, but my OB office won't write a note for "typical pregnancy symptoms." Just knowing I could be at home napping during my lunch break and stretching to relieve my pain makes the day to day so much harder. 😞

I work and go to college fulltime and it’s so exhausting. I’m currently 29 weeks and 2 days pregnant. I plan on working until I give birth. But I’m cutting my hours in October to 32 hours or less, with three days off. This will give me the time to finish homework and everything else before the baby is here, and give myself time to rest.

@Rosy I feel you. I want to go on fmla early but at the same time I really need to accrue as much pto as possible to use once baby comes.

I feel this. I have been trying my best to compartmentalize and shift my focus. For example, when I am at work, all I can do is focus on work and the task in front of me. When I am home, all I can do is focus on home and the task in front of me. One thing at a time. And giving myself lots of breaks to rest whenever possible.

that's my strategy too... otherwise we simply sink........ but that's so hard. "typical pregnancy symptoms" I don't know if I have to cry or laugh at this one... they should be the first to know that even a "typical" pregnancy is hard as fuck.

The hardest part for me recently has been the fact it’s getting uncomfortable to sit upright. My work has standing desks and exercise balls that I’ve swapped for my chair but there’s only so much relief. I was legitimately looking at my calendar today and counting the weeks I have left 😂

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Love my husband. Love my kids. But…

I’m 32 weeks pregnant with twins. I take care of my 4 yo, 2 yo, and 1 yo. I barely have energy to stand anymore. I cuddle and watch movies with my kids all day at this point. My husband is less pushy in this pregnancy in wanting to be touched or love up on me. But I feel more like a tool these days more than ever. He gets frustrated (not to a crazy degree) but I can tell he huffs because he’s probably sexually frustrated from me not wanting to be touched on. (my boobs are super sensitive atm) I love having the babies part, but the pregnancy also now has me feeling like a baby making machine. And a tool with big boobs made for touches and my husbands pleasure. Ofc I love my husband and kids, but with my hormones all wack, it really doesn’t feel the same when you’re not turned on. It’s so hard for me to get turned on. I’m uncomfortable all the time in my own body. Babies moving in there all the time. My children cuddle me all day but get rowdy at the end of the day, so I end up getting touched out and I can get irritable when my husband tries to touch me affectionately. He doesn’t have the tact necessary for me right now, when I wish he wanted to go in for a normal comforting hug I’m let down more often than not, there is almost always a boob groping involved as well. I tried to just let him touch me last night so he could get it out of his system, but he could tell I felt tense. Wish my boobs weren’t such an uncomfortable place for me to be touched. Idk why I’m making this post. Probably just to vent. Wish men were equally as emotionally intelligent as women. Wish I didn’t feel like I still owe him something because he’s picking up a lot of the house load and yet I still need to ask him to do more before these twins arrive. He’s tired every day when he comes home, so he takes a shower sometimes works out, and helps get the kids to bed. So it’s a struggle getting him to help any further than that. Weekends are my only time to get to him. But it’s a struggle to find time on weekends too. I know if he wanted to he would. But there’s just no drive.

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Looking for recipes you use in your family that are not the traditional lasagna, shepards pie, ect

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What are we giving our soon-to-be 3yo for their birthdays?

We have the magnetiles, we have the kinetic sand and play doh, we have the play kitchen…

Literally, is there anything left in the world to buy this spoilt kid? 😅

Baby groups?

Hello there!!
I hope you enjoying the 5month babies 🫠 the cuteness outweighs everything over here.
We live in the area of Croydon & need to start going to baby groups ( I NEED it more than him though) but I am a little bit clueless. Any recommendations?
We are happy to travel a bit too.
Thanks ☺️

Hiiii!

Hey yall! I’m Mahala and socially awkward as hell. I’m looking for other moms to connect with to hang out in person or on FaceTime. Drink coffee while the kids destroy the house. Literally anything. Making friends is hard in motherhood when you don’t know how to talk to people. I’m pretty low maintenance friend and we can talk whenever. And I’m down to do anything within reason. Let’s chat!