Bath time

I’m not sure if I’m the only one but recently my daughter has begun to cry during bath time. She did not have a problem since birth but as soon as she turned 2 months. I can’t get her to stop crying. I’m not sure what it is. I thought it was because she was cold or hungry but definitely neither. My boys never cried during bath time so this is a first. I’m not sure if she is scared of the water maybe?

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Do you swaddle her during the bath?

Not like tight swaddle mind you. I just kinda wrap mine loosely in a swaddle to keep him a tad warmer and more safe feeling. He LOVES bath time lol gets so mad when I put clothes back on him 😂

Yeah, I know what you mean. I started to put a wash cloth on top of her thinking that was the case (being cold) but that didn’t help either. I’m just wondering what it is because she absolutely hates to bathe now.

If you have one of those things receiving blankets from the hospital, try wrapping her in that. I keep it closed and pour water on him to keep him snug feeling

My daughter has hated bath time since she was born 😂 she cries bloody murder. my mom and I haven't figured out how to get her to enjoy it yet, but we are still working on it!

It happens. They get over it after a few weeks

I’m currently going through the same thing . She’s 9 weeks this week and it’s been happening since she was maybe 7 weeks . I thought maybe the water was too warm or too cold but we’re still figuring it out also 😭

Bath toys as a distraction? We have these pipes and gears that suction to the wall that my daughter is obsessed with

My boy has never liked bath time. I think it’s just new and scary. Trying to get him used to it and more supported by putting him in a baby bath and placing a warm wet rag over his chest and belly, but I think it’s probably because he’s cold. I figure it best to try turning off our air or putting a heather in the bathroom and see if he likes it more.

We use the otteroo and put her in the big bath with us to “swim” and she loves bath time! We use a thermometer to ensure it’s 99-100 degrees so she isn’t cold. Sometimes we offer a pacifier if she’s fussy during bath also.

Update to my previous comment: I just gave her a bath with a wet muslin covering her and she was calm and happy! :) I think my baby is just extra sensitive to coldness 😆

Mine likes to look at herself in the mirror and she plays with “the baby in the mirror” during Bathtime. We put her infant tub on the sink top when we bathe her. Maybe see if this will appease your baby.

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He was so unresponsive to sound that we just had his hearing tested concerned he was deaf. They found that he could hear so he is just choosing not to react to any noises or sounds.

Has anyone else had similar experiences with their little ones? Should I be raising this with the health visitor and ask to be assessed for neurodivergent issue or a social communication problem like autism?

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This is such a ramble but I don’t know where else to put it all.

I’m four months in and I don’t really have hobbies right now. I don’t do anything for myself except maybe doomscrolling or listening to a podcast while I breastfeed my baby. I used to craft and have game nights with friends. Activities that usually are at least 2 hour stretches. Now if I have an hour free my mind immediately goes to baby, or doing something in the house for baby.

And I thought I didn’t mind. Like I knew postpartum could be very mentally consuming. But I think it’s altering how I view people around me and it’s prodding at my relationship with my husband.

He spends most of his time making food for us, looking after our dogs, playing with the baby, ect. But he still has time for his hobby. Spends maybe an hour a night on it. Even adapted to using a bot for shopping for his hobby after a certain incident where we had to have a heart to heart after he left me home alone with the baby for hours during a busy workday (I work from home) to shop for his hobby.

And yet there’s like this little green eyed monster in me that rages every time I know he’s running off to start up the bot. Even though I’m the reason he does it this way.

We took a family trip last weekend to see his best friend and their kids and let them meet the baby. He brought the laptop. He’s always brought a laptop on trips and it’s never been a problem to me before. But one night we both woke up while the baby was still asleep, and he wandered out of the room. I tried to fall back asleep but couldn’t. So I went to the kitchen to try having something warm to drink to settle me. And he was there at the table running the bot from his laptop. I flipped out at him. But there really wasn’t reason to. It’s not like I needed help with the baby and he was ignoring me. He wasn’t avoiding our friends. He was just awake and unable to sleep and found something to do with his time. Yet my snap reaction was “why the hell would you do this on a family trip?”

I don’t know what it is. Maybe it’s the less complete sleep from baby’s middle of the night feed? My brain being just consumed by baby? Maybe I’m not as over that shopping incident as I thought? But I’m just so annoyed at his hobby right now. The green eyed monster thinks “you could be using that time differently” but realistically to do what exactly??? Stare at our baby in the dark???

I spent probably an hour apologizing to him after I snapped. And he’s of course hurt and frustrated because I said some very mean things in the moment.

I don’t want to be this jealous, angry person. But I also don’t know how to find time for myself in this right now outside of basic hygiene. It’s like I’ve forgotten how to be myself, even if just for an hour.

Maybe I need a therapist.