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IT'S A POLL WORLD! 🙋🏽‍♀️

break up or stay ?

not a poll but i need help,

ever since having my baby (he’s 7 months now) me and my bf have been feeling different. well i think it’s mostly me due to the postpartum and other issues. i used to live with him and his family the first 3 months of my son being born and now that i’m out of work i didn’t really see a reason to stay there anymore. i only stayed bc his mom would watch my son while i was at work. i have lots of reasons as to why i don’t want to be with my bf anymore.
1) while i worked (6:30am-2:30am) he would be asleep the whole time and wouldn’t wake up until i would get home, i get that he works graveyard (6:30pm-2:30am). but he couldn’t wake up to watch his own kid, which irritated me so bad. i wanted to tell his mom to tell him to man up and he’ll watch his own kid but i didn’t want to start anything. even though i wouldn’t get any sleep at night, i would be dying at work, tired, in pain from heavy lifting. then come home to take care of my baby and then do it all over again.
2) he would drink alcohol like it was water, i don’t drink anymore due to breastfeeding and just not enjoying it anymore. he would drink and drink and when i would tell him to stop he would get mad and ignore me and my son.
3) the first month of my son being born he would play his xbox all night and would be loud and wake up me and the baby. so i never got any sleep and and the tv would be bright and he would just wake me up to say the baby’s awake and i would have to get out of bed and tend to my son without his help.
4) he never helped with anything, no diaper changes, no changing clothes, no bathing him, no washing his clothes, i did everything while being sleep deprived and crying all night almost everyday. i would have to ask his mom if she can watch my son while i went to take a shower bc my bf is a heavy sleeper. one time when i was showering i was finishing up and i heard crying and i was trying my hardest and fastest to get dressed and i heard the crying getting quiet so i knew my bf was walking away and when i was finished i went out to look for them, he was in the kitchen slamming the cabinets and i was like give me him and he looks mad asf and he’s like go to the room and i’m like just give me him and he pushes me to go to the room and i get mad and i sit on his bed getting ready to feed my baby and he kinda like passes me him a little hard i’m like dude really and he leave the room and slams the door. and sometimes when i’m over i can hear my son crying and then some time later he’ll stop and so i go to my bfs room and i don’t see my bby so i’m like where is he? and he’s like my mom/sister has him. he can’t even calm down or wanting to hold his own son
5) he smokes which is something i told him while i was pregnant to not being doing that anymore cause i don’t want my baby around that. idc if y’all don’t agree with this but if you’re agreeing to something for the sake of your baby then i find it really disrespectful to go behind my back and still do it. i looked through his phone and he’s texting his coworkers about smoking after work and pulling up to their houses to smoke with their girlfriends and honestly that right there is pretty disrespectful to me. and he’s asking somebody for ❄️ like dude, you lied and said you don’t do that. i don’t want him around my son if he’s going to be doing that kind of stuff
6) his mom has been getting a bit too comfortable with my son, yeah i know that’s her grandson, (her very first grandchild) but the things she says and does i don’t like. while i was talking to an old manager at my old job i was holding my son and my old mgr is playing with him, my mil comes and just takes him out of my hands and doesn’t say anything, she just goes and walks away, that was rude to not just me but to my manager bc we were in the middle of talking, shes made comments about my parenting like how i can’t handle my own son, so she’ll take care of him or how i went with them wedding dress shopping for his sister she said “we’ll keep (my sons name), you can leave now” or how they only want my son around. and way before i was pregnant i knew his sister did not like me but when they found out i was pregnant she started talking to me and they started inviting me places which was nice but i wish they did that before i was pregnant, i feel as they only want me around now bc of my son which is not okay with me.
7) he’s just a straight up liar, he lied about so much stuff and i know he’s lying bc i already know the truth, i looked through his phone and he was watching porn, i asked and he said no straight to my face so i had to go back to his phone and give it to him and show him that he had his tabs open to it. he got mad bc i looked through his phone but he couldn’t even tell me the truth, i asked him if he still smokes he said he hasn’t done it in a while and the next day i went to his house i see his wax pens/vapes on his dresser and when i leave and come back, they’re hidden, he thinks i’m dumb bc he lies when i know the truth.
ive lost a lot of trust in him, i don’t believe anything he says. i think the only reason i’m still with him is bc of my son, he’s told me way before that he’ll take me to court if we ever break up, im not scared bc i know i’ll win but it’s just i don’t want to deal with all that bs, i don’t want to have to share my son with him because i know he won’t take care of my son, he’ll leave him with his mom and she’ll do everything. i really just want to end things but idk how it’ll be later on in the future, i never wanted my son to have to go through any of this, i always wishes for me and my bf to be in love but i can’t do it anymore. idk what to do now