Help

I know its not the same but my husband was an alcoholic. In about 6 months time we went from almost divorcing to him getting sober and us consciously deciding to have a baby. He's now 2.5 years sober and we have an amazing son. He got sober before a baby was in the picture but if you want someone to talk to, I'm here!

I thought he was sober when we started trying for a baby but then he started going out and coming home drunk and smelling of weed and lying about it but I was very sick and pregnant already. Then it stopped and I thought he was clean then I found cocaine in his wallet the day I brought my baby home from hospital. Again he stopped he joined aa he stopped drinking he swore it was pat him. Today I checked his phone and found he’s been down the pub everyday for week lying to me he’s in traffic or finished work late or with his sick grandad when really he’s down the pub so I go and check his work bag and there’s clear evidence of drug usage for weed and cocaine and I’m at a loss completely now he really had me fooled all these days all these months I’ve been at home in his town with his family away from mine away from my friends taking care of our child completely alone and he’s been doing this and lying over and over again I promised if I caught him again I would leave I stayed the

time and now I don’t know what I can do

Oh bless you. If I were you I’d either be kicking him out or moving out. Preferably the former because you and the little one deserve the house. Obviously how you do it logistically depends on your set up bills-wise, but this situation isn’t safe for the little one. You have to think of them first. He’s been proven to lie and not to value family in multiple ways.

It’s easy to say and hard to do, but I would be out of that relationship like a flash and take evidence of what he’s done photography wise incase you need it for custody. It’s obvious you should have full custody.

The little one is so young they won’t remember this, I was 6m when my folks split, but an unhappy home is not a good place for a kiddo. Far better an awesome single mum or a new dad (that was my case) at some point.
Cut him loose.
Even just financially spending that much money with a young baby is crackers!
I feel like I keep accidentally making cocaine puns here- sorry.

You can get support with every other part of life, but it’s like an infection, for the baby’s sake you’ve got to cut out the bad to save and heal the good.

You have to be really brave whichever decision you make. But one way or another the drugs have to be out of the relationship.

Message me I've been thru the SAME thing