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👋🏽 Hi! My name is Clarissa and I’ve lived on a Oahu since 2016. I have two daughters ages 10 and six. We love to hiking, go to the beach, find food trucks, go to all of the local food festivals, hang out by the pool, have picnics, etc..

🫶🏽I started this group because I know how it is to be here and one feel alone and two feel so wrapped up in motherhood you don’t do anything for yourself. Let’s change that.

💃🏽 This group is for the Momma’s who want to get together during the day while the kids are in school, on the weekends for a girls night out, and of course, for play dates with the Littles.

🗓️ My goal is to set up a meet up event once a month for just the to mamas and once a month for the kiddos.

👯‍♀️If you know anybody who would be down to join make sure you invite them to this group so they don’t miss out!

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Hi ladies! My name is Lena and I've been on island for about a year (Kailua). I have a six month old daughter and would love to meet other mommas for girls nights/days. I love all the things hiking, shopping, sipping wine ;) and of course baby dates. Love this chat, thanks for the invite

Hey everyone!
My name is Bethany and I have a 3 year old boy. We’ve been on the island for about 10 months and would like to meet more moms and have more play dates! We enjoy indoor playgrounds, parks, hiking, zoo/sea life park visits, and beaching. Thank you for making the group and inviting everyone ☺️

Hello all! Thanks Clarissa for making this group! Great idea! I would love to do monthly mom nights and play dates as well! I'm wild over here with 3 girls, ages 7, 5, and 2.5. We love doing all the things - hiking, swimming, snorkeling, surfing, and down for trying new things. We are from Idaho and moved to Hawaii in January 2023. Love making new friends.

Hi Ladies! I'm a mom of an 11 year old girl, and I'm definitely down to meet for a moms night.

Aloha! Thanks Clarissa. Born & raised on Oahu but don’t have many SAHM friends or friends with kiddos. Looking to brunch / shop / work out while my almost 4 year old is in part-time preschool. I’m up / down for almost anything! And so is he. This is a great idea to have meet -ups for us and playdates for them. 🫶🏻

so happy to find someone with an older kiddo my oldest is 10!!

Hiii ladies! My name is Asaka. I have 3 year old and 2 months old girls😊 I came to hawaii in 2017. so excited to meet all of you guys!!

Hi all! I have a 5 year old daughter and we love to be at the beach. We’d like to have some beach buddies! Weekend meet ups would be great for us. We love to do anything outside but I’m down for moms only nights too. Thanks Clarissa for setting this up

Hi mamas! So stoked to have found this group! I’m a SAHM to 2 under 2, my son turns 2 in November and my daughter is 4 months old. We just moved to the island this past month and I’ve been wanting to make some mom friends to grab coffee and have play dates/ park hangs with! We live in the Salt Lake area!

we’re in salt lake also!!

aloha everyone my names destiny i’m from makaha i have a 6 year old girl and a 11 year old boy im down for chill during the day while the kids are in school hope u all have a great weekend aloha

aloha !!!! So glad you’re in the group!! 🫶🏽

Hey all! I’m Ayriana, I grew up here and live in Waimanalo now. I have a soon to be 5 year old daughter (this month) who is in school and a 2.5 month old son. Im a SAHM now and wouldn’t mind getting out of the house other than my weekly trip to target 😂

hi 👋🏽 I just recently have gone back to being a SAHM… but I do run a business so there’s that haha but I know the feeling and would love to set up play dates and coffee dates!! My daughters are 6(almost 7 this week) and 10

Hi I'm chelsea. I'm born & raised here. I have a soon to be 10 yr old girl & a soon to be 2 yr old boy. I'm a sAHM & I'm down for play dates. Park days beach day with my kiddos.. I don't really go out for me time. I'm always with my kids. But I'm here to met new moms

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My name is Dominique
I have three kids 17, 8, 5, I’m a single mom. Looking for a solid group of mom friends. Loved the virtual event, and I’m good with anything kids are a part of!!

Hi, I’m Tammy and my baby is 6 months old.

hey girl!! So sorry for responding late… I just had a baby 😅 life is crazy haha hoping we can start planning stuff soon!

hi Tammy 👋🏽

you just had a baby!!! Congrats!!

love all of this!!

Hey 👋🏼 I’m Amanda, I’ve lived here since 2015. I’ve got a 14 yr old daughter, 1 year old boy and expecting another baby boy next month. I had such a great group of mom friends the first few years I lived here and they’ve all since moved 🥲 Looking to make more mom friends now that I’ve “started over” and I’m back in the thick of it with a toddler and soon to be newborn. Love all things with the ocean and beach! I was an avid hiker from 2015-2017. Trying to get back into it as much as I can 🤰🏻 and looking forward to using it to get back into shape this summer after giving birth. Recently moved out of Makiki and into the Salt Lake area.

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wtf moment?

I have been going back and forth with my husband lately. Well not lately it’s been years. He is the best husband and father you could ask for; for two weeks. Then he’s inconsistent. It drives me mad. Then he’s back to husband and dad of the year , then back to same inconsistency. I talked to him about this last night and he said “if i was lovey dovey and acted like this all the time you’d get bored and cheat on me.”

Ok so for starters i know some of you are going to say omg omg omg super controlling omg leave omg. No im not doing that. Im happy he finally admitted his wrong doing and taking accountability for it but id like to know the deeper reason, the what the f has him thinking like this reason, the personality trait reason. He’s obviously scared I’m going to leave him; so much so that he’s doing this dumb shit to prevent it. Past trauma? What do y’all think I can do to get him to see I’m not going anywhere? I’m consistent already, I married him, we have a baby. He really is the love of my life. I have never loved another man like this before.. but this shit is for the birds and he thinks he’s keeping me doing this but in actuality it’s making me lose respect and detach.

Divorced at 5 months PP

My husband just divorced me yesterday.

I'm 5 months post partum and I feel like complete shit. I literally can't stop crying and I don't feel like eating and this whole week my milk supply has gone down due to stress and not eating. What helps with milk supply?

The divorce- on Monday at 5am me and my husband had a small argument on text. It was regarding him not catering to my love language. I sent him a video on how women shouldn't have to ask and how laziness can kill a relationship. We've had many arguments regarding this prior about him not catering to my love language and he doesn't buy me flowers or doesn't think of me. Anyways this night, he text me saying he doesn't do Mother's Day and all that, he doesn't want to buy me flowers because my sisters buy me flowers and he can't be arsed with my moods. He said I've not been his peace and said he's done.
I replied "okay. All I want is for you to appreciate me and love me as your wife and mother of your child. I'm not pushing you away, I'm begging you to love me etc etc. I'm done too."

I come home from my errands that morning and he's upped and left. He took all of his belongings, clothes, drawer, tv- everything.

He didn't ring or text me or anything.

The property is in my name and as he left and didn't leave the key, I changed the locks the next day. I feel this is what pushed him over the edge.

He officially divorced me on Saturday.
I'm 5 months post partum and I have a 5 year old from my ex partner too.

I just want to talk about it with someone that's not biased. Was I asking for too much? I feel he just didn't want to be with me anymore and used this as an excuse? Or is that me overthinking....
Input would be nice xoxo

worried about a family members baby

So this child is three months old and she isn’t being fed from 10pm till 6/7 am idk if this is normal or safe and it’s been like this since 2 months i believe as she won’t wake her for feeds she goes to the pub drinking most nights with her baby and her baby has already been in hospital with a very low temperature bc she was outside but as soon as she was in a warm car she warmed up and doctors said she was fine she lets cats play with her bouncers toys that go over her and doesn’t strap her in she is cold from what i’ve heard from other family members and they’ve tried to warm her hands and she’s wet herself at my parents and she hasn’t had a spare vest to put on her and i offered her a blanket as she didn’t have one and she declined and she won’t listen to anyone about it she’s already left the baby with my parents for the night to go out drinking and personally i couldn’t leave my three month old because my parents said she just cried and im really unsure whether to report her or not and her house smells of dog wee/poo as she’s never home to look after them and that’s not safe for the baby i understand being lonely but she doesn’t need to go to the pub every night her friends could
go
to hers or her she could go to a cafe that has closed doors not sat outside a cold pub and it’s a bit of a rough pub in my opinion

my parents are concerned btw but they say i shouldn’t report her as it’s not fair but i feel how the baby is treated isn’t fair

Forgiving a partner…

Long story short - found out 2 months ago my partner of almost 10 years has slept with two girls, one of which he’s been seeing for 8 months - during this time I was pregnant with our third child and gave birth. (She had an abortion)
I found out, he cut all ties (still works with her)
I want to try and move on from this, we have three children , and a home… I can’t face the idea of being without my children half the time. I want to try and make things work. But I can’t stop the intrusive thoughts / images of the two of them together…. Any advice if you’ve been in a similar situation?
Sick of feeling this rubbish, also 5 month pp so hormones/confidence is in pieces😣😣😣

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I’m now a little over 2 months postpartum and I’ve struggled with genuinely just not liking my partner anymore since we found out I was pregnant last year. I catch myself just staring at him with hatred because I’m so sick and tired of his bullshit. He is just now getting a job and has not had one since THANKSGIVING!!! Meanwhile I was working full time until I finally got too sick to be able to work. I genuinely want him out of my house but I depend on him as far as driving goes bc I don’t have a car. I also still love him deep down and don’t want to put him out on the street but he’s driving me genuinely insane. Any advice?

Heartbreak

After years of trying, months of back and fourth on the fate of our marriage, indecision, fights. The whole enchilada my husband and I are separating, divorcing. Whatever. I'm so goddamn heart broken. I feel like it's a death and I'm in mourning. We have a 3 year old son and currently and for the foreseeable we are going to coparent and live together. This makes things harder because neither one of us can really move on but it's how it is. He understands and he's trying to heal too. But I can't understand why now that things are over he can be kind. He's been more amazing in the last week since I ended things than ever. Why couldn't he do that when we were together for years I begged for change, we saw a counselor I tried everything and he just wouldn't. Now he seems to turn a switch and be able to just do it all. But it's too late. My heart aches. My body aches. Love sucks.