what did you put on your tinder?

weird one but im 28w, i wanna start dating and putting my self out there and i know so many women have done it whilst pregnant but did you put it on your profiles or something or tell them once you’ve matched?

any tinder/hinge experiences would be much appreciated! 🥰

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At first i wouldn't mention I was pregnant or had a child until there were arrangements to meet, which didn't work really well. so I put in my bio, "mom of 2" and before i made arrangements to meet I would tell them i'm pregnant with one of the babies and most if not all of the guys i spoke to were okay with it. Currently dating someone I met online around when I was 28 weeks, he's completely fine with it, sweetest guy ever, treats me like a princess.

I'm approaching my due date so there'll be a good chunk of time where we will not see each other but we've had a conversation about it and he's been really understanding

hey, thanks for sharing your experience 🥹 congrats on ur lil one! im gonna send you a dm if you don’t mind x

Love this. I've just found out in pregnant from a little fling and he doesn't want to know. I'm so scared of doing it alone as I love cuddles and affection and all that but I'm so worried no one will be interested as I'll be carrying another man's chil

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Family culture difference on money

Sorry this is long, I hope some of you get to the end and give advice!!!

So I’m a very thrifty person, things are tight at the moment, the cost of living crisis and my house is heated by oil so things are extortionate. We aren’t on the bread line but we aren’t flush, hubby might be made redundant so there is some financial pressure.

Sometimes I buy my sons something nicer, on the justification that I can sell it on after (♥️ vinted ♥️). I have also been planning on pretty much breaking even most of the baby things I bought from face book market place, side by crib, baby changing unit, etc.

Hubby and I have different money cultures with our families (he’s Indian, I’m British). I’m my family we don’t mix money, we would help each other out if someone was in trouble and will get each other gifts on special occasions. With hubby’s family money is much more fluid, they will give each other things worth thousands of £ just because.

Hubby’s brother bought him a new laptop and a new Google phone, he’s been very generous to hubby. Hubby hasn’t given the same back because brother is much richer.

Hubby and I mostly share finances. If it’s relevant I’m the higher earner.

Now to the point! My babies are so cute they’ve given hubby’s brother (currently single) baby rabies. He’s asked for our baby stuff when we’re done with it. He’s been so generous to hubby I feel really stingy saying no. But I’d never have bought some of the stuff if I wasn’t going to get a return on it - the thought makes me a bit anxious. If we gave all our baby stuff given the second hand value it still wouldn’t equal what the brother had given hubby.

I thought maybe I could give him some stuff but sell some stuff, but hubby said then his brother will just have to go out and buy that stuff, so I should name my price and ask his brother for the money. That makes me feel very uncomfortable, given how generous the brother has been to hubby.

So what do I do ladies? Give it all and suck it up? Give part of it and sell parts on Vinted/FB, or ask hubbys brother for money for it and be uncomfortable? Or do you see another solution?

No one is being entitled or rude here, just a culture difference I need to navigate.

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Hi everyone! I honestly have 0 social queues when it comes to talking to anyone in general. I definitely have a hard time talking to other women and making new friends. I can 100% relate. I just don’t like the idea of texting or meeting up but when I do I’m like “oh this isn’t bad.” Any advice? I also have a hard time getting comfortable and just feeling judged by other women😅 I’m also 19 so maybe making a change in this now will help in the future making mom friends/friends in general. Thanks in advance!

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