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I'm really starting to feel like he just doesn't want me anymore..

I'm 34+5 and I think we've had sex probs 5 times the whole time I've been pregnant. We've been together for 4 years and at first he couldn't keep his hands off me and I loved the attention and ever since it's just been fading away. I'm quite shy when it comes to sex admittedly, but I do initiate. And now it seems that we only have sex when I finally get through to him that I want it, or if I go in a bit of a strop I think he realises and then initiates. It's making me worried that he just doesn't find me attractive, or he's getting elsewhere.. but I know he can't be because there's literally no time when he could be.. ah my head is a mess about it all. I really don't know what to do. I've spoken to him about it before, then we'll have sex and then it just goes back to this. I'd love it if he would initiate, he's not gone down on me for at least a year, and again when I've brought it up he says that I don't do it to him so why should he do it to me? I've done it so many times it's unreal and it doesn't get returned so now I'm like why bother..

Any advice? Sorry I know it's just a jumbled rant 🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️

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Some men get weird about having sex with a pregnant woman. For various reasons, like...Will I hurt the baby. Which sounds ridiculous but.. man brain 🤷🏻‍♀️ have you asked him if it has anything to do with you being pregnant?
Also if he's not going down on you maybe he's a bit grossed out by the fact you're pregnant. Not that there's anything gross about you , but it's amazing how little men actually know about our bodies 🙄 who knows what he's thinking.
Might be worth a conversation if you havent already!

I know personally for me my husband found it weird to do anything sexually with me while pregnant ( we worked through it) but to him is was honestly a big deal ( he would freak about the baby inside me lol) but differently talk with him! Open communication helps

My man is the same =( started before pregnancy so they can't blame that. He gets oral everytime we have it but I get nothing back in return . Spoke to him endless amounts of time but soon goes back to how it was . Sex is actually boring now because I think he does it to keep me quiet usually 1s every 2weeks ish if I'm lucky and same old routine. I've quit trying to turn him on as he's pretended to sleep.through it

It started going down hill before I was pregnant to be honest, and then when we were trying we were having sex all the time and now it's stopped again so I honestly don't know what's going on with him, any time I've mentioned it he just goes "but I am attracted to you" or "I want sex more then you realise" I'm like.. show it then 🤦🏻‍♀️

I get what you mean, it's like exactly the same every time and just feels like we're going through the motions rather than proper into it

If you’re not satisfied with the responses he’s giving you then you need to dig deeper with him. Don’t let him get away with giving you such basic answers

how do I do that without sounding moody or needy?

Have an honest conversation with him let him know you just want to understand how he is feeling and there’s no judging or getting mad you just truly want to know what’s going on so maybe a solution can be discussed

My husband also found sex wierd when I was pregnant. Maybe try and ask him how he is feeling and if there is anything bothering him as stress etc can also affect sex xx

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