My husband has mental issues , he was in some mood today . He drank and came into my room and said
Do you think it’s a better life for our child if we get a divorce? , what are your plans for our sons future and whenever I tried to talk he would yell over me and say u got nothing . And it’s true I have nothing since I become a SAHM I lost my job which was a skill . I lost my car because we are now using one , I don’t have family or friends to help , and I’ve been basically alone in this marriage because of his moods I never know when he will snap at me so I barely talk to him just so we won’t fight in front of our child .
Even if We divorced I have no place to go or no money to take care of our child , no one to watch him while I work , even with him going to school I would need to be there to drop him off and pick him up I’m between a brick and a hard place . Today he was staring me down like he wanted to kill me . I just don’t know what to do anymore. I try and take it one day at a time but now he’s questioning me about having a plan for our sons future but I have non for even mine . Please pray for me . I really just don’t want to live anymore.
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Ew, what? This is abuse. You are a stay at home mom raising your child! That’s a huge part of your son’s life and in my opinion is an excellent way to develop security in your child by having a bond with their mother. Honestly, the nerve. Our babies are only babies for a little while. And then they start going to full-time school (if that is what you choose). THEN you have time to work and “plan a future” for your son. What about your husband? Does he have any “plans for the future” to contribute? This is mental and emotional abuse and not okay.
he makes all the money and probably thinks that’s his plan.
This is sad! I'm sorry you are going through this. Does he actually legally have a mental illness? Or did he just tell you he does to get away with these horrific actions?
You have nothing? The whole damn point of marriage is “what’s mine is yours” that’s how a team raises a child! He sounds awful it’s never too late to make changes if you want to leave this man I’d start researching and making plans about what you can do next losing a car and a job are both temporary issues they don’t define you xx
he definitely has one anyone who lives with him can see it . It’s just he keeps going to drs and whenever they even tell him it’s mental he leaves that dr , because he thinks it’s a nerve and pain issue yet no one is finding anything substantial. So he drinks and smokes to cope.
that’s funny, YOU stay home and raise his child so that he can go to work AND not have to pay child care.. I cant stand when men belittle their stay at home mom wives🤦🏻♀️ Of coarse you take care of the home, cook and clean too. But apparently that means nothing🙄
Listen mama you are better than the words he slings at you. You are raising your child and that's is so much. He is insecure about himself and taking it out on you. You need to fight and live for yourself and your baby. You can leave . You CAN. He is trying to intimidate you and make you think you can't but you can. Find an old phone, charge it when he's not around and keep it charged so even if he breaks ro hides your phone you can call 911. Find a shelter in your area if you have to. And prepare to LEAVE because I am telling you it could get worse and you want to be prepared and get your child OUT
Get out,file for divorce and get spousal and child support to help you until you are stable and on your feet.
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