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5 days ago

Soon to be single mother. Advise appreciated.

First time mommy to a 1 year old baby girl. Been married 2 years. Husband decided to leave last night. We have briefly talked about divorce but he hasn't filed because he doesn't have the funds. We have not been able to agree on custody, seems like he wants full custody. Otherwise he is refusing to help. He is terrible at communicating and I worry about having to coparent with him for that reason. I'm left to pay the mortgage of the house on my own and I'm very depressed and stressed out. Any words of encouragement or advise is appreciated. When we got married we moved to a different county and my support system isnt great. I feel so alone 😔
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2 days ago

hey hun i’ve been through something similar.. please reach out to me.. sorry you’re going through this! x

4 days ago

I'm an immigrant myself, more than happy to chat. As I feel in the same situation. Pray that things will get better.

4 days ago

Well despite him wanting full custody 🙄🙄🙄 (why do men do this when they?! They know they don’t want the full responsibility) Unless he can prove abuse or neglect he won’t get it. I suggest you inform him of that and tell him either you guys save money and decide on your own. Or you go to court and let a judge decide for you. Which will most likely end up 50/50. As far as the mortgage, is the house in your name? Is there not a way in family court to make him pay or help pay for that? I suggest seeking legal advice. A lawyer will give you the best Information for your situation

4 days ago

@Kirstin yes, I keep reminding myself that we set the example for them. If they see us in an unhealthy relationship, they will think it's normal and seek the same later in life and I would hate for that to happen. I'm worried about coparenting though. He is very angry and not willing to communicate with me. Hopefully with time it gets better.

5 days ago

Sometimes showing them a healthy co-parent situation is better than showing them a loveless relationship ❤️

5 days ago

@Kirstin thank you, she is who gives me the strength to keep going. I tried being as amicable as possible with her dad but he has made it very difficult. I can't pay the mortgage on my own but I'd rather him move out then have my baby witness us not getting along. I really hope the best for you and your child. These are very unfortunate situations. 😕

5 days ago

I am so sorry your going through this, I don’t have any words of advice as I’m in a very similar position although my ex still lives in the house with me and my 1yo as we can’t decide on how to pay the mortgage. Remember you are strong, you’ll make it through with your baby girl! That’s who your fighting for now ❤️

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