Freaked out mama - just had 1 year check up

We’ll we’ve hit all of our milestones but are late for one. Which is completely freaking me out since I started googling as well as talking to the doctor but it’s a big one.
*We do not hand mom back our toys* she takes them and crawls across the room with them or keeps them in her mouth. Sometimes I ask for them and she laughs at me like “nope”. Other times she’ll take her toys and sit on my lap with them.
The doctor wants me to keep an eye on it because it can be a sign of autism but she’s only worried if it doesn’t happen by 14 months. Did any of you have late bloomers In this way? Im wondering if it’s partly my fault also because I never really have asked for anything back and have just given her stuff. Any advice or critiques are accepted. I want to help her.

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This wasn't a milestone my daughter's pediatrician ever even mentioned. Doctor had no concerns at the 1 year appointment and i don't think my daughter does this either.

You can do like games with her to stimulate that like me and my husband pass it back and forth a toy or a ball perferly and then show them that and then start passing it to them and tell them to give u in the hand the ball or toy and explain it to her we started to do that and he now gives the toys to us

But it's ok no every baby is the same my son learn to crawl a lil late but cause I didn't put the time to him but the doctors would tell me that every baby is different and just try this exercise with her and she'll get the hang of its not your fault ok it'll be ok

To be honest it’s kinda weird that the doctor would mention autism just because she doesn’t hand you her toys. If your daughter is hitting every other milestone then why mention it.

But I think you just need to practice with her. I started asking for my sons toys at like 11 months and he soon started to understand what I was asking for and would had me stuff. You can also practice by handing your daughter stuff saying “here you go” “this is for you” “do you want it” and then asking for it back “can I have that” “it’s my turn now”

I agree with the last comment, make it fun. I started off as “ oh what’s that” and can you share”. I started with her Binky and I used to say oh that looks yummy. Can I have a bite? And she would share.

So my daughter was doing this and I gave my husband the toy and he “pretended” to give it to her but then didn’t and she got confused and kind of mad. Then next time he gave it back to her. Next time we asked for the toy she gave it to us, back and forth was thrilled by it lol. Now we have regressed again haha, but maybe give it a try? I wouldn’t be too concerned with this alone.

I’d be more concerned with her doctor talking about autism bc she doesn’t hand stuff back yet. If she’s hitting all her milestone except that one then I wouldn’t worry to much I would just practice more if you’re really concerned.

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