I’m worried.

I’m a SAHM with a beautiful four month old boy. Recently my husband and I were forced to kick our roommate out and move. Since then our finances have gone town the toilet so badly. Our cards are maxed out and we’re negative once rent and a couple other things come out. What should I do? I’ll need formula in a few days and I’m just scared. I promised myself I’d never let my son know poverty the way I have. Is there a place I can go for help or something?(of course we’re “too rich” for gov assistance of any kind but can’t even afford formula) Please give me all your tips and tricks.

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Check local buy nothing and freecycle groups. If you're in the US, talk to your pediatrician. They'll have samples. You can also literally call CPS on yourself. They get a bad rep but they're really about keeping families together. They'll refer you to resources. You can talk to a lawyer about bankruptcy or look into how to get debts wiped away. If your situation is desperate, pay just your card minimums. Feeding your child is more important than your credit. Check food banks for you and your husband. Sell whatever items you don't need.

Unfortunately, being a SAHM is kind of a privilege, especially if you're in the US. You may need to get a job, especially if you are and/or have been living above your income. You need every penny you can get to get things under control.

Good luck. I hope it works out for you. 🙏

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It might be time to consider working from home. Seems like your husband may not be able to do it alone. Wishing you all the best, plus this may be your time to shine.

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Yes either part time, work from home, even Amazon flex is some fast cash doing deliveries and also bring baby with you

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unfortunately it gets kind of hard. My husband will get home at 10/11 and goes to bed shortly after and he leaves at 6ish. My son goes to bed at 9/10 and wakes up at 8. The schedules are conflicting and I’ve looked into flexible graveyards and it just doesn’t work out. To top it off I don’t have a vehicle.

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Not sure where you live since cities are busier, but delivering for Instacart, Uber Eats, or Postmates pays out at the end of every week and averages $20 an hour. Since no customers are in your car, I don’t think there are vehicle requirements besides that it’s legal to drive and that you’re licensed.
If your husband or a friend are available, you can bring the baby and they can wait with them in the car and play on their phone.
Your husband doesn’t have a vehicle that you can use and you can drop him off at work and pick him up when he’s done?

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House cleaning jobs are also pretty easy to get and usually pay cash after the day job is completed.

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Search for any freebie pages in your local area on Facebook. Food banks etc.

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Try to go to your local pregnancy center the give diapers and I believe formula for free no charge. If you need other things like a stroller or clothes you can do classes and earn points to get things.

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Love my husband. Love my kids. But…

I’m 32 weeks pregnant with twins. I take care of my 4 yo, 2 yo, and 1 yo. I barely have energy to stand anymore. I cuddle and watch movies with my kids all day at this point. My husband is less pushy in this pregnancy in wanting to be touched or love up on me. But I feel more like a tool these days more than ever. He gets frustrated (not to a crazy degree) but I can tell he huffs because he’s probably sexually frustrated from me not wanting to be touched on. (my boobs are super sensitive atm) I love having the babies part, but the pregnancy also now has me feeling like a baby making machine. And a tool with big boobs made for touches and my husbands pleasure. Ofc I love my husband and kids, but with my hormones all wack, it really doesn’t feel the same when you’re not turned on. It’s so hard for me to get turned on. I’m uncomfortable all the time in my own body. Babies moving in there all the time. My children cuddle me all day but get rowdy at the end of the day, so I end up getting touched out and I can get irritable when my husband tries to touch me affectionately. He doesn’t have the tact necessary for me right now, when I wish he wanted to go in for a normal comforting hug I’m let down more often than not, there is almost always a boob groping involved as well. I tried to just let him touch me last night so he could get it out of his system, but he could tell I felt tense. Wish my boobs weren’t such an uncomfortable place for me to be touched. Idk why I’m making this post. Probably just to vent. Wish men were equally as emotionally intelligent as women. Wish I didn’t feel like I still owe him something because he’s picking up a lot of the house load and yet I still need to ask him to do more before these twins arrive. He’s tired every day when he comes home, so he takes a shower sometimes works out, and helps get the kids to bed. So it’s a struggle getting him to help any further than that. Weekends are my only time to get to him. But it’s a struggle to find time on weekends too. I know if he wanted to he would. But there’s just no drive.

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Literally, is there anything left in the world to buy this spoilt kid? 😅

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I hope you enjoying the 5month babies 🫠 the cuteness outweighs everything over here.
We live in the area of Croydon & need to start going to baby groups ( I NEED it more than him though) but I am a little bit clueless. Any recommendations?
We are happy to travel a bit too.
Thanks ☺️

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Looking for connection!

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